Telling a sick or disabled person "oh but you don't look sick" is actually really crappy and hurtful, even if you mean it as a compliment.

Let's talk about the reasons why.

1/ First of all, some background. Not every illness or disability is visible.

Some flare intermittently, some are never visible. Sometimes people are in incredible pain but don't show it because they're used to it, or just don't want to talk about it with you.

Lots of options.

2/

Every year I make a huge sculpted cake for a shared bday for me and my fiancé. This year, there's no point, because who's gonna come eat a huge cake in a pandemic?

So plan B is a pain-in-the-ass cake that's smaller.

Everyone please meet the (A Night At The) Opera Cake Opera cake is a Very French Cake that is rarely around because it's a hassle. It's alternating thin layers of coffee-syrup-soaked almond joconde sponge, French coffee buttercream, and chocolate ganache/glaze. Traditionally it has the word Opera written on it in chocolate cursive

Are you having a day full of grumps? Time for some Very Lorge Bears

Time to intro the contestants in this year's #FatBearWeek
from explore.org/meet-the-bears

This is Chunk (32). You'll note Chunk is Very Hefty and has eaten the entirety of the salmon species. This is Grazer (128)

Grazer has done an excellent job this year. Just look at that gut! It's filled with success!

Do you need a break from the multi-pack of apocalypses happening right now?

It's time for a thread of... ANIMALS WITH BALLS. (No not like they can stand up to the man. Or like they haven't been neutered. Or like Cinderella-style parties.)

This doggo is having the BEST DAY EVER This kitteh is ready for the WNBA with those dribblin skills.

Last month's #snackening was from Thailand.

This month is from Egypt! Let's goooooo

1/

https://twitter.com/effies/status/1289715345540780032

These snacks were... less unique. Few new flavors, and no "this must be what Satan's asshole tastes like" flavors. Maybe bc I lived in Israel which has some similar flavors? Anyway, we did keep almost all of these for nomming post tasting, which is rare!

2/

Y'all, we finished Legend of Korra and I'm honestly disappointed. No thematic resonance, no great earned catharsis. Shoulda just watched Last Airbender again instead.

Spoilers below, mute this tweet if you don't wanna see em.
1/ I'm super down for Korra being bi, and Asami was treated so terribly throughout the show (both by writers & other characters) that she deserves a happy ending dammit.

But like, you gotta develop their relationship to make the pairing feel right? And make em kiss you cowards.

2/

Everything is terrible, so here's a thread of ANIMALS RIDING OTHER ANIMALS to brighten your feed.

We start with this epic Least Weasel (seriously that's its name) riding a whole damn woodpecker in flight! Here's a very smol doggo riding a very lorge doggo in perfect doggo symbiosis

Everything is terrible so it's time for a thread of very round animals.

This bun is SO ROUND. Look at this perfect egg of a doggo

In honor of this awful asshole, I'd like to share the story of my first-ever reading at a writing convention.
Here's what not to do if you're sharing a reading slot with another human being. (Yeah this probably wouldn't happen to men, but really it shouldn't happen to ANYONE) 1/?

https://twitter.com/MARIADAHVANA/status/1093163128681127936

I had my first-ever reading at my home con, @Fogconvention (which I heartily recommend for any writers in the Bay Area and this is not their fault.) I shared the slot with two other authors, a friend of mine and Asshole. I did not know Asshole's true nature initially. 2/?