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Psychodynamic therapist, mostly working with adolescents and young adults
Jul 12, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
I’m seeing a lot of positive, compassionate comments on Twitter today re @BareReality ’s article on detransitioners: “these young women were failed”; “they weren’t offered the right help”, etc. All absolutely correct - and yet. 1/ It’s as if there’s a known approach that’s being carelessly neglected by doctors/therapists/gender clinics. An approach that’s going to make sure no-one transitions and regrets it later. Perhaps it’s a perfect set of phrases and questions that helps patients stop and re-think. 2/
Jan 16, 2019 5 tweets 2 min read
‘Don’t think of it as “am I trans or not” think of it as “why do I feel this way?”
This is the question that all therapists should be helping their young trans-identifying clients to ask themselves. And I kind of want to add: getting to this point can be a long therapeutic process! Think ‘marathon’ rather than ‘sprint’. Many young people are sure they have the answer to the question of “why”, and the answer is: “I feel this way because I’m definitely trans.”
Nov 2, 2018 7 tweets 2 min read
A thread on worry:
Many of the parents I work with have much to be worried about w/ regard to their adolescent kids, especially parents of kids who identify as trans. Knowing your child is eager for a medical transition that you suspect they may well regret can be terrifying. 1/ This worry is reasonable + understandable. However! There’s a problem, & somehow parents need to try & solve it. Here’s the problem: for kids to feel okay about themselves, for them to feel that they’re fine as they are, they need parents NOT to be too worried about them. 2/
Sep 27, 2018 15 tweets 3 min read
Long thread! A few thoughts on adolescent girls who have desisted from identifying as boys...

Something I’ve heard all of these girls talk about is that during the time they believed they were transgender, there was a lot of... pretending? ‘Striving’ might be a better word. 1/ These girls went to a lot of effort to present in stereotypically ‘male’ ways: beyond clothes and hair, this was a focus on ‘correcting’ facial expressions, gestures, posture, gait, speech patterns and pitch of voice... as well as interests, passtimes etc. 2/