Hey all it is apparently time for your local polyqueer to yell about nonmonogamy! The "monogamish" letter in this Prudence chat is nonmonog practiced very badly, but not for the reasons the columnist says, & it perpetuates harmful ideas about the practice slate.com/human-interest… "Don't catch feels" is a silly and harmful nonmonogamy rule for a lot of reasons (such as kind of going against human nature), but the BIG one is that it centers the "violation," as Danny (Dear Prudence) put it, in entirely the wrong place.