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JustJan 💗🐘📚
@janjowen
Trauma/grief therapist, author, speaker, & consultant. Sometimes a warrior, sometimes a rebel. Practicing keeping my heart open to the beauty in life.
Sep 1, 2024 • 15 tweets • 3 min read
🧵Tomorrow my husband, Phil, would have turned 60 if he had lived. These are the most significant lessons I've learned in my grief journey.

1) Life goes on. It keeps moving &doesn’t stop for grief. I used to think this was terrible. Now I see there is some mercy in that.+ 2) I have a clearer perspective on life now. I have no room for drama, no time for it. What is important and what is not has been made abundantly clear. I live at the intersection of "be responsible" and "life is short."+
Aug 11, 2024 • 9 tweets • 2 min read
FYI: 🧵A summary of diagnostic criteria from the DSM-V on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, &lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood &present in a variety of contexts…1/? indicated by 5 or more below:
•A grandiose sense of self-importance (exaggerates achievements &talents, expects to be recognized as superior w/o commensurate achievements)
•Preoccupation w/fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love. 2/?
May 15, 2024 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
A 🧵- I have news for all the “women shouldn’t have a career but should just tend to the children and home” folks. In heterosexual married couples, 70% of the time, the man dies first. The average age for a woman at time of widowhood is 59. Not 70 or 75. 59. + 2/ without a way to earn for herself and possibly her children, she is financially at risk. According to SSI, the greatest risk factor for a woman in America to fall below the poverty line is to be widowed. I have three children and stayed home for many years to care for them. +
Jul 30, 2023 • 5 tweets • 2 min read
🧵 Let’s talk spiritual bypassing. You may have experienced it when you hear things like, "You shouldn't be sad, at least they are in heaven now" OR "God has a plan" OR "If you'd just pray and read your Bible more, you wouldn't be depressed." 1/4 Image But we also do it to ourselves, as a way to avoid unpleasant emotions. We smile and say, "The joy of the Lord is my strength!" &refuse to admit our hurt.

This can lead to an inability to heal because we never actually address the problems and questions that are real &true. 2/5