Mrs Cynthia Okpara went to her husband's office to report him to his boss. She told her husband's boss how her husband Mr Odogwu Okpara usually squander his N60,000 salary and only gave her N30,000 for upkeep. After her narration, the boss told her to come back on the last day of the month.

On the said day, she arrived as planned. The boss called Mr Odogwu and they all sat down in the boss' office.

“Let a man be a man”

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HEALTY WAYS COUPLES CAN GET MORE ATTACHED TO EACH OTHER:

_Emotional Intimacy:_

1. Active listening and empathy
2. Share thoughts, feelings, and desires
3. Vulnerability and openness
4. Validate each other's emotions
5. Schedule regular connection time _Physical Touch:_

1. Regular hugs and cuddles
2. Hold hands and kiss often
3. Intimate physical contact
4. Massage and physical affection
5. Eye contact and gentle gestures

TEN SNEAKY WAYS PEOPLE MANIPULATE YOU.

1. LOVE BOMBING: flooding with affection to gain control.

2. GASLIGHTING: Making your doubt your reality.

3. SILENT TREATMENT: Ignoring you to make you feel guilty. 4. GUILT TRIPPING: Making you feel responsible for their emotions.

5. PLAYING THE VICTIM: Always being the one who is wronged.

6. FUTURE FAKING: Promising a future that never comes.

7. TRIANGULATION: Using others to make you jealous.

THE CHEATING PROCESS

Let’s just start by saying “everyone knows exactly what they’re doing”. Cheating never really just happens, it comes from a preconceived idea that is nurtured with time till it is acted out.

Read with context… When we talk about cheating, it comes on different types and forms and they are:

Emotional cheating
Micro cheating and
Physical cheating

For the sake of this conversation we’ll focus on physical cheating (while subtly touching on the other two along the way)

If you like someone for their looks, it’s obsession.

If you like someone for their kindness , it’s admiration.

If you like someone for their money, it’s interest.

If you like someone through think and thick, it’s genuine commitment. If you love someone because they love you, it’s empathy.

If you love someone for the way they make you laugh, it’s humour based affection.

If like someone for their mind and their knowledge, it’s intellectual attraction.

HOW TO SPOT GENUINE LOVE

1. The person will be thoughtful and considerate about your needs, not just theirs

2. The person will seek to know who you are and celebrate who you are without wanting to impose change in you 3. The person will be consistent in treating you right

4. The person will not change how he/she treats you when you don’t give them what they want - sex, money, a meeting

5. The person will respect your boundaries

Reasons Many of You can’t keep a decent relationship

A thread you will not like

1. Mentality-

There’s a raving mentality that has totally commercialized love and its nuances. It’s mostly sex for money & vice versa. With this mentality, men get bored & women get “used”. Still on mentality, if you don’t intentionally unlearn the extremely transactional beliefs of love that is widely accepted now, you will never be able to experience the beauty of being loved and loving as well. This is cos you might self sabotage even if someone real comes along

9 reasons why a lot of you ignore the red flags.

A thread.

1. We let our feelings override our minds, as a result we focus more on what seems to be a potential and ignore what could be a deal breaker. 2. We badly want the relationship to work even on the expense of our happiness and we are afraid of being single or to start over.

5 Phases of relationship (broken down from the 3phases I’ve written on before)

1. Attraction
Every couple experiences this phase. In this stage, you only focus on the good things and similarities between each other. You spend a lot of time together and imagine you are made for each other. You avoid fights and it seems that fight will never happen. 2. Reality
You start finding flaws in your partner. It doesn't mean that you don't love your partner but things are not beautiful as in the beginning. You start fighting and doubting if you're really in love. The spark in the relationship seems declining.

9 THE TYPES OF WIVES:

1.THE GOSSIPING ONE
What you love talking about are stories of others, often negative stories. Your husband looks at you and wonders, is there not something better to talk about?

A thread for when you're hungry... 2. THE PASSIVE IN BED ONE
You lay in bed, lifeless, wanting your husband to do all the work to seduce you. You make no moves on him and he is starting to feel drained because it is not two way.

5 THINGS YOU SHOULD DISCUSS WITH YOUR PARTNER BEFORE MARRIAGE

You should be adequately prepared before heading into marriage.When you jump into marriage without adequate preparations, you jump out of it sooner than expected.

A thread... Just because you love him/her isn’t enough criteria to get married. There are certain things you should discuss with your partner before saying “I do”.
Check them out below

Dear Brother

5 THINGS YOU LOOK OUT FOR BEFORE ASKING A LADY OUT.

Pls don’t read this thread when you’re angry because I don’t want anyone to find my address and beat me. I’m an elderly person and I don’t like problems biko.

Now read after eating rice & beans… 1) Be Sure of what You Want from her First.

It's very bad for a lady you are "toasting" to ask you exactly what you want, and you are stuttering, telling her you people should start first, start wetin first? Is it generator?

HOW TO LOVE EACH OTHER THROUGH YOUR CHILDREN...✍🏾

1. Send little notes of love to each other through your children. Children love being messengers of love.

A thread for family oriented people. Read when you have money in your account… 2. Tell your children the unique story of how you met each other. Children love a good love story. Your love story is more important to them than what they see on TV.

How GENERATIONAL TRAUMA shows up in families

A needful thread... 1. Alcoholism or substance use

Using substances to cope is a common response when we can't self-regulate and haven't been modeled healthy coping mechanisms

I’m going to get bashed for this, but I’ve got thick skin and an elastic heart…

IT IS NOT IN THE NATURE OF MEN. MEN ARE NOT WIRED TO CHEAT, THEY CHOOSE TO CHEAT.

I have had to listen to this preposterous postulations for too long and it’s time we talk about it.

Don’t read… This ideology that men are polygamous in nature has flown around too much that it’s gradually becoming a norm.

It’s actually people who lack self control, discipline and a clearly defined purpose on relationship/marriage that say this as a reason to be promiscuous.

In 2015 I had the most traumatic trauma healing therapy cases ever…

I was a vocal coach & critic at the time and I had gotten a little famous so I usually get invited to work with different choirs mostly before a major concert.

There was this young beautiful alto singer… She was about 21 at the time and she the kind of voice you’d want to call “the voice of an angel” but she hadn’t learnt control yet she was to do have several solos during the concert.

I noticed all the boys in the choir were fond of her. Since she was beautiful I felt

HOW TO BE ALWAYS HAPPY IN LIFE. READ THESE AWESOME LIFE TIPS.

1. Always remember that there is nobody on this earth that does not have problems. You are not the only one that has problems.

2. Challenges are part of life. It is only a dead man who has no challenges.

Read... 3. no problem has no solution. There are solutions to the pains you are going through.

4. The way you picture yourself in your mind can affect your happiness. Picture yourself as a valuable and beautiful person. Avoid low self-esteem and inferiority complex.

NEW YEAR STRATEGIES TO AVOID UNNECESSARY PRESSURE IN 2024

1. Put your kids in schools you can afford because expensive schools don't guarantee good results. Just ensure they attend a good affordable school.

You might wanna read this... 2. Rent apartments you
can pay for
conveniently. Don’t live
in a house you struggle
to pay yearly.

3. Let’s plan our lives and
live within our means.
Save more and spend
less.

Essential life lessons you should learn in your 20s

1. Manage your time

You're not overwhelmed
You're unorganized

- Wake up earlier
- Create a to-to-list
- Set deadlines
- Stick to your schedule

Don't read if you don't like advice... 2. Focus on one thing

Everyone wants results, but nobody wants to stay focused.

The gap between your current life and the life you want is called Focus

Focus 100% on one thing, instead of doing 5 things with 20% focus each

5 Types of women to avoid:

1. A woman surrounded by many men she calls friends. Those men are your replacement in the waiting.

2. A woman who wants you for your money and brings you no value. She’s a financial parasite and vampire. She’ll ruin you.

Read when angry… 3. A woman who doesn’t take instructions, corrections and directions from you. She’s arrogant and will never take responsibility for her actions and inactions.