The #Rakgadi story has been great for laughs on Twitter. The aunt who dishes the dirt on the unfaithful sister-in-law and all that. It is actually tragic and triggering. It reminded me of some of the toxic, woman-hating, misogynistic practices of the communities I grew up in. 1 I have seen this story many times before. In Tzaneen. Soweto. Hammanskraal. It is the story of what we do to women. How we demonize, oppress and even kill them. The bad “makoti” is always on hand to be accused of witchcraft, greed and being a whore. It’s an old trope. 2