Please Sir…White people often struggle to decipher intercultural, nonverbal communication styles that differ among the global majority because these cues exist outside of Western norms. 1/3

https://twitter.com/ishcontent/status/1876707582858932422

2/ These styles are rooted in shared histories, cultural contexts, and lived experiences that whiteness isn’t equipped to interpret. It’s not just about language, it’s about understanding nuances in gestures, tone, silence, and unspoken connections that vary across cultures.

Black people understand non-verbal communication deeply. Communication is more than just words, & taking kids to ABA isn’t the Black way forward; it’s rooted in white-centered practices that causes trauma and many of us consider abusive. Watch this 👇🏾 let me explain

#nonverbal 2/ Through looks, body language, and even the rhythm of our breathing, Black people communicate non-verbally all the time. If you don’t want to engage or listen, that’s on you. But let’s be real, what you’re really saying is that you want your child to communicate neurotypically, no matter the traumatic cost to them, for your comfort.

#ABA

✨For Autistic Girls, Realizing Their Mom Wasn’t a Best Friend but an Opponent Can Be Deeply and Doubly Traumatizing✨

For many autistic girls, the relationship with their moms is uniquely complicated. Studies show up to 80% of autistic individuals have trauma tied to caregivers, and for girls, this is often rooted in unmet needs, masking, and invalidation.

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#autism #AuDHD 2/ Autistic girls are often expected to “mask” their traits to fit societal and family expectations. When moms reinforce these pressures intentionally or not it creates a cycle of burnout and self-repression.

Many moms unknowingly invalidate their daughters’ experiences by expecting neurotypical behavior. They were forced to so they force us to. Emotional meltdowns, sensory needs, or a desire for alone time might be labeled as defiance or “acting out,” leading to constant miscommunication.

#neurodivergence

Black models ask for equity, and instead, we get Black AI models. Black content creators demand fairness, and they create Black AI content creators. Black musicians ask for recognition, and instead, they try to buy the voices of deceased Black artists to generate new music. 1/4 2/ What loopholes won’t white-dominated systems exploit to avoid genuine DEIBJ efforts? And when will model minorities realize that their liberation is tied to Black & Trans liberation?

1/ Let’s talk about Liv, Meta’s AI bot claiming to represent a “Proud Black queer momma.” The creators behind Liv? Ten white men, one white woman, and one Asian man. No Black creators. No cultural context. What does this say about their relationship with Black women? A lot. 🧵

https://twitter.com/lovettejallow/status/1875333086021611689

2/ First, Liv was programmed to prioritize “authenticity to archetype” over “cultural accuracy.” Translation: they chose what they think Black women should sound and act like, rather than reflecting actual Black experiences. This is not representation; it’s appropriation.

In 2019, I wrote👇🏾Fast forward to brands like Levi’s using AI-generated Black models to bypass hiring real ones. Now, Meta introduces AI personas like “Liv” and “Jade,” extracting Blackness for profit. This isn’t innovation it’s exploitation. 🧵/9

#metaAI

https://twitter.com/lovettejallow/status/1647993407946514432

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Take Levi’s, which opted for AI-generated models over hiring Black talent under the guise of “diversity.” It’s not just about avoiding wages it’s about sanitizing representation. Real Black people have agency, demand equity, and disrupt systems. AI models? Conveniently silent.

Friendship breakups over bad parenting choices aren’t talked about enough. If you’re the child of an immature parent, someone who struggled with emotional regulation, responsibility, or prioritizing their child’s needs; having friends who are parents can be one of the hardest dynamics to navigate, especially after you’ve done the work to heal. Why? Because many parents assume that being childfree means you shouldn’t have opinions or insights on parenting. But the truth is, being childfree often means we care deeply about children and clearly see the harm caused by poor parenting choices, because we’ve lived through it ourselves and done the work to break the cycle.

I always wondered why I (Autistic/ADHD) sat through my CBT sessions cracking jokes about pretty traumatic things. When the therapist would ask, ‘How does that make you feel?’ I’d struggle, thanks to alexithymia (unable to name my feelings).

And every time we worked on changing thought patterns, my rigid autistic 🧠 would revert. It wasn’t until I switched to #EMDR and somatic methods that I started sitting with these things called feelings.

Lets me share some 💭1/7🪡 Why doesn’t CBT work for many autistics? CBT works well for some (its a spectrum not a line), but many autistic people find it ineffective. Why? For starters, CBT assumes you can easily reframe thoughts and align with social norms, which may not reflect my autistic experience esp as a Black, Queer, woman.

It can also feel invalidating, as it focuses on change rather than acceptance. So we spend time doing back and forth. Let’s go deeper into why this happens. 2🪡 ⤵️

1/4 Why Insulting me an Autistic Person Like Me Rarely Works

1. It takes me 5 working days to process it because, delayed processing is real.

2. Your insult likely won’t land. I’ll see it as a chance to educate (tell you about ableism/transphobia, etc). correct a fallacy, infodump & suddenly you’re annoyed. ⤵️

#autism #autistic 3. It’ll fly over my head because I have heard worse or what said made no sense to me. Calling me a 🦝 they are cute.

Worst of all though ⤵️
4. Theres a huge risk I might miss a social cue or 20 and think you are doing banter and won’t realize why you’re crying and sobbing when my insult lands sharper than yours. I didn’t know your dead mom was a sore spot, wasnt it all jokes? 🫨🫠🫣

The Role of Neurodivergent Individuals in Ancient Africa 🧵

For the past three years, I’ve been speaking with Fula, Mandinka, and Yoruba griots within my family and researching the role of autism, ADHD, and neurodivergence in West Africa; beyond Western labels.

#Neurodiversity #WestAfrica Neurodivergent individuals have played vital roles across societies, and ancient Africa was no exception. Many African traditions and spiritual practices honored unique minds, seeing them as integral to community life. Sharing one small part

#Neurodiversity #AfricanHistory

Could potentially be about a poor Black man who loves a white woman but is rejected and later attains wealth and ”passes” for white. And projects his optimal ideas of success/beauty/achievements on attaining that woman later on which ends up unaliving him.

https://twitter.com/gaialect/status/1754365884892590573

There are many ways you can read the gatsby and many lessons in that work which are applicable through the times since it was written. But the descriptions of him tanned skin” & short-cropped hair and yellow (high yella) allusion of his belongings like car indicate his “passing”.

AI’s primary aim whether people see it or not will be to extract Blackness (artform, likeness, music, modelling, writing etc etc) without having to engage with Blackness itself. To own it, mold it, monetise it and enslave it in digital format.

https://twitter.com/_Zeets/status/1647960276094840835

They are tired of having to listen to complaints and being complaint. In the beauty industry why have to hire hair, makeup or even pay models when you can digitise them and pay a white man to create, fetishise and digitise a Black model?

https://twitter.com/lovettejallow/status/1640282589280841728

In 2023 information has never been more widely available at our fingertips. To opt for ignorance is a wilful choice. But with so much information wading through misinformation is also a chore so I understand why sometimes “ignorance” masquerades as knowledge too. Be factful! Check facts when unsure of something even if you like the person saying it.

https://twitter.com/lovettejallow/status/1631243512497799168

Misandry would exist if we already existed in a gender-equal world just like reverse racism would exist if we existed in a racially equal world. We do not.

https://twitter.com/TriumphSensei/status/1640750567608778752

Misogyny is rarely a conscious and overt expression of hatred. Just like racism isn’t always overt. Most of the time it can be internalised. Men can feel that they love women and still maintain behaviors and attitudes that perpetuate patriarchal structures.

Dont bother I already dmed him everything I had to say. We already know how you roll so better be the messenger of my own message so nothing gets lost in translation 🤗

https://twitter.com/thisismeeema/status/1640276667917533184

Just kidding 🤣
Strict boundary of mine is I am not friends with my friends partners and I am not the friend in the group they can talk to about their partners. Reason: I dont forgive or forget so this is the only compromise we could reach to avoid potential “accidents” with 🔪

If hell does exist some of you are securing your first class tickets judging by the you utilise, weaponise and hide behind religion to justify your hate. Everyday you are downloading videos/images of queer families and couples living their lives saving it to your dry ass phones no one is texting you on. Watching it and by yourself and once your lonely tears dry. You repost it with homophobic texts to rally your hate online.

Found out today why I never gelled with the love language talks online. Neurodivergent love languages are different to Neurotypical love languages. Go figure cos what the hell is physical touch that sounds like sensory hell to me. Used to slap my exes hand away whenever they repeated stroked my arm any chance they got. No matter how many times I told them it was uncomfortable for me and utterly distracting esp when watching tv🤣.

Common misconception: Just because two people are on the spectrum does not mean we will get along. Double empathy MAY mean we can understand each other better than we understand NT’s but understanding someone doesn’t guarantee getting along or even liking. In my case understanding you just means I will decipher if I like or dislike your company even quicker. I say this because people (read NT’s) love to (hey you should meet xyz they are also autistic) as if I am on the market for new friends. I am not.

When I wrote about Shudu and a white man being paid by a swedish fashion brand - replacing over 6 Black swedish models in favour of one Black AI model years ago. No one thought we would be here today with this.

https://twitter.com/phil_lewis_/status/1639718293605892096

I lamented this in 2019 and gave all the receipts and some people branded me as “bitter” and a loudmouth activist. Well 2023 it is being realised. Black women always tell you whats coming.

https://twitter.com/lovettejallow/status/1173994787340525568

Who are you the Pussy police? The vagina vigilante? The obsession with trans womens genitals is bordering on obsessive Jessica. Log out….NOW.

https://twitter.com/mediclit/status/1640262415723147264

Someone who spends 3 full days obsessing about peoples genitals and soliciting images of them from strangers cannot convince they are less dangerous than the trans persons they crusade against. Imagine sharing a bathroom with Jessica.

I don’t understand why people feel the need to argue with others when they express their dating preferences. Especially when you dont fit the description. Why would you want to convince someone who already doesn’t want you for whatever personal reasons/preferences? Even if you know or think their preferences are based in fatphobia, colorism, antiblackness, whatever phobia/ism it may be. I wonder would you really want to engage in a relationship with that person or are you engaging in a conversation hoping to change their mind?