all young women, growing up under patriarchy, internalise disproportionate levels of violence and guilt, because shame and punishment are the go-to tools of the patriarchy. you are shamed for existing, for breathing, for desiring, for being, for wanting, for dreaming, for dating home is the first site of patriarchal oppression (your own parents first oppressors, its why feminist methods are inevitably non-violent and radical, we are literally in love with those who are harming us, so you learn to do politics differently), the world mimics this violence