author of 10 NYT best-selling books, most of which people put another cover on when reading in public
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Oct 8, 2024 • 5 tweets • 2 min read
How to avoid conflict in a relationship:
Listen without defending or reacting. Even if you disagree with the facts of what they are saying, seek to understand why it is true to them.
Remember there is no need to own what is not yours or make any change whatsoever. All you have to do is understand their perspective.
If they react or get worked up to the point where rational conversation isn't possible, politely step away and resume when they return to equilibrium.
Most people, if they have the self-possession to do this, do not get to this next part.
Once your partner feels fully heard *and* is in a place to hear, respectfully share your reality--making sure to avoid criticism, judgment, analyzing, or accusing.
Even if your perspective will be met with disagreement or defensiveness, the process is not complete if you aren't authentic to yourself and share your experience. Otherwise you are meeting their needs but not your own, and this will lead to resentment.
Jan 20, 2022 • 11 tweets • 4 min read
Something happened this week that has shook me.
I want to share the story as an illustration of what's possible in a new world and model that we can create.
If we choose to take a leap of faith.
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I recently engaged in an experiment. One that scared me a little.
The idea was to select one of my NFT books in a verifiably random way and give the holder the rights to the work. As @LITWTF put it: What happens when the reader becomes the publisher.
