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Harry | they/he | 22 | UK | lefty scum | gender cryptid & disaster queer | coparenting three cat-shaped voids with @skepticaldragn
5 Mar
i still wanna do this, can't decide whether I should just go the entire thing w/o mentioning a genital configuration at all, or referring to both typical configurations
Some trans folks refer to our junk in gnc ways after all like some ppl refer to what would be technically known as a clitoris as their dick & vice versa, I could just like... Use them interchangeably
And then it's like which one is it? Do they have both? Who knows not me but whatever it is it's in the other character's mouth
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5 Mar
why do people feel the need to rant to me about the DVLA selling their data dude shut up and let me do my job I don't even work for the DVLA what power do you think I have over their processes
I am just telling you how this process is don't rant to me about how bad it is write to your fucking MP I am literally a call centre employee I don't even make 19k a year
Stop being so fucking adversarial I am trying to help you
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5 Mar
I wonder if I've forgotten how to walk in heels
Can u do that or is it like riding a bike
I haven't worn heels since like... Maybe 2017?
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4 Mar
I have so many appointments booked for things. Me? Getting my life together?
Got myself a medication review appointment with local MH services bc the antidepressants I was on before didn't do anything, got an eye test booked bc the lense of my glasses keeps popping out, had a blood test, gonna have an endo appt soon
I got an eye test voucher from work AND it includes glasses up to a certain value, so excited I haven't had new specs in ages
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4 Mar
"asexuals aren't oppressed" ok the stonewall campaign to ban conversion therapy in the UK literally says that aces are actually more likely to undergo conversion than other cis LGB people but go off
If ur in the UK fill out this thing to email ur MP it takes 2 mins
"7 per cent of LGBT+ people have been offered or undergone conversion therapy, with trans respondents almost twice as likely to have undergone or been offered conversion therapy (13 per cent)."
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4 Mar
I kind of dislike "non-binary people are automatically included in every sexuality" without caveats. It's more accurate to say "non-binary people can be included in any sexuality, if they're comfortable with it"
Non-binary is an umbrella term for a huge range of diverse genders, and not everyone within that group is gonna be okay with the same things
A non-binary man may not be comfortable being included under lesbian attraction, for instance. A non-binary person may not feel comfortable being included under straight attraction at all. Non-binary isn't a third gender category you can make sweeping statements about
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4 Mar
Have I written 2k words of backstory about one specific event in my dnd character's life?
There's basically a big family feud that causes the clan she's from to break up but my hyperfixating ass had to make her a whole family tree and decide who was on which side of the feud, which specific characters died and how, who's left alive and what happened to them...
I'm cishetallophobic almost every queer character survives but most of the cishets died
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3 Mar
everyone who isn't a trans man/n-b who was afab in the replies needs to shut up tbh. yes, it's directly harming trans ppl to say everyone under 5'5" is a woman. It's misgendering. misgendering is always bad, even when you're misgendering cis people
there are A Lot of trans men & n-b folks who were afab who are under 5'5", many of whom experience height dysphoria, and are misgendered more frequently because of their height. in what universe is calling us women not transphobic lol
Also the whole "if you're under x height you're a woman" would also suggest that someone may also say "if you're over x height you're a man" which is, you know, transmisogyny
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3 Mar
I love having freshly cut hair, I fucking hate cutting my own hair
it always takes me like an hour and I have to contort myself in between two mirrors to try and see the back, and I have a double crown so there's like A Way I have to do the back of my hair and it's so hard to do on yourself
and I don't have one of those capes that the barbers have so I just get little tiny itchy bits of hair all over me, and then I have to vacuum up all the mess and ugh I miss barbers
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3 Mar
Those "what's your gender without using any gendered terms" things are fun so in the same vein:
Using only emojis, what is your gender?
Using only memes, what is your gender?
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15 Jan
This is literally the exact shit I'm talking about. Nobody is asking you to tolerate toxic behaviour, or put your own wellbeing at risk. The leap between PD = toxic/abusive behaviour is a leap that YOU made based on YOUR OWN ableist assumptions #MakeAbleistsUncomfortable
Whenever someone dares to mention destigmatising personality disorders, someone inevitably makes the leap "but I'm not going to tolerate being abused!!" show me where the fuck I asked you to?
People with PDs are often much more of a risk for harming themselves than others. Knowing someone who excused toxic behaviour by blaming it on their mental illness is not a reason to assume everyone with the same MI is also going to be toxic.
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14 Jan
#MakeAbleistsUncomfortable you're not an ally to people with mental illnesses if you're only an ally to people with more "palatable" mental illnesses like depression/anxiety, while continuing to stigmatise people with personality disorders, psychosis, etc.
Tweeting quotes about self-care and "talk to someone uwu" don't mean shit if 10 minutes later you're using psycho/schizo/sociopath/narcissist etc as insults, or assuming anyone with BPD is abusive, or armchair diagnosing famous racists with disorders to explain their behaviour
In the same vein, you're not an ally to people with mental illnesses if you support them until they show symptoms that make you uncomfortable, or make it harder for you to romanticise and pity them.
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14 Jan
lowkey killing me that I'm not allowed in to support Eli for his pre-op appt so imagine how bad it's gonna be when I'm not allowed to see him at all from admission to discharge for his actual surgery 🙃
I'm so upset I'm gonna miss out on him being stoned af after surgery and on his reaction to waking up with a flat chest, and I hate the idea of not being able to be there for him to advocate for him if he needs it
he's such a socially anxious person he won't even ask for ketchup at a takeout so if he like needs extra pain meds I bet he'd just suck it up
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13 Jan
can someone please tell the weird sect of angry 15 y/o kpop twitter that actually it is possible to be part of the LGBTQ+ community and still perpetuate bigotry against other parts of the community
I see this the most with sapphics full out saying "achilleans die" as if homophobia is somehow not bad when it comes from other members of the community
You may not have institutional power to oppress but that doesn't mean that engaging in and perpetuating homophobia is not bad???
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13 Jan
In light of that weird ass take abt a lot of n-b people being ~actually cis~ completely derailing an important point abt transmisogyny in trans spaces
Transfems/TMA folks - what are some ways you've noticed transmisogyny perpetuated in trans spaces? What are some things other trans people can do to make those spaces safer for you? What's something you wish other trans people knew about transmisogyny & combatting it?
(no pressure to contribute ofc if you don't have the energy/mental bandwidth rn, etc. If you do want to contribute your experiences/thoughts, thank you in advance for taking the time)
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11 Jan
They better let Jodie's dr be sapphic at some point, there have been so many love interests/mentions of love interests since the 10th dr in dr who and all of them have been women I just want to see female doctor crushing on someone
Let the doctor be a lesbian 👏🏻
All of the doctor's love interests have been female - Rose, River, Madame du Pompadour, Elizabeth I, he had a wife on Gallifrey, the 8th doctor got married, some of the Old Who seasons had romantic subplots between the doctor and companions, etc
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7 May 20
Big disclaimer RE the alternatives to ableist language thread that I def shouldn't have assumed goes without saying: I'm giving examples of alternative words not just for people to swap them like for like. It's intended as a tool to enable people to criticise harmful behaviour +
Without suggesting that mental illnesses or disabilities are inherent flaws or personality deficiencies. However, just changing your language isn't enough by itself - the reason that the use of certain language is harmful is it creates the societal mindset that MIs/disabilities +
Mean that someone is inherently flawed in some way. But if, instead of using "borderline" as an insult, you insult someone by straight up listing all the symptoms of BPD, you're still participating in that mindset, just in an obfuscated way. People absolutely are within +
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7 May 20
~thread of alternatives to using illnesses as an insult~
Did you mean: self-centred, egocentric, self-involved, vain, self-serving, intractable, stubborn, self-aggrandising, pretentious, self-involved, grandiose, overblown, conceited, smug, narrow-minded, inflexible, adamant, intransigent?

Then say that instead of narcissistic.
Did you mean: cold, uncaring, callous, heartless, cruel, indifferent, sadistic, ruthless, merciless, evil, remorseless?

Then say that instead of sociopath/psychopath.
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24 Feb 20
There's a deep irony in B*ck Ang*l going off on one about how He Personally died to reclaim the term queer when he is the epitome of the brand of weak respectability politics that queer was specifically geared to oppose (thread).
Context:
I would like to point out that
1. The account he's replying to is not a child - they're 23.
2. Nowhere do they mention the word queer either in the tweet, or in fact in their username, bio, pinned, or anywhere else prominent. So Buck is having a Normal One. Buck Angel replying to a tweet that reads
Queer was deliberately fashioned as a radically inclusive term, including ALL non-normative forms of gender and sexuality. The lack of specificity is intentional - it's broad and all-encompassing, doesn't categorise people into neat, easy to understand boxes, and defines+
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