If you’re a sensitive gentleman, you often have to design self-interest out of the equation for you to press gas all the way down. The 2 levers you’ll want to master are both FRAMING + the “value gap”

All frame must be come from “i am here to serve them & do the best i can for them”. Them-focused, you are simply a medium for their value. “Am i them-focused?”

+

“Is the value here astronomically slanted in their direction?”

If u can get 2 yesses

U can press foot down all
The way. For the senstivie gentleman the limiter is usually one of these 2 variables This also applies to procrastination in the micro. The flow comes when something is bigger than u. U can swallow ur own incentives with designing serving into it. Then the blocks stop being “yours” & moreso become logstical / operational puzzles

Your tolerance for barelysentient behavior should be at the ground level. Zero interest in playing pretendspar with an NPC that doesn’t even believe what they’re saying anyway. They’re literally just brainless NPC thoughtpolice. Little voice alarms that automatically go off whenever anyone with soul states anything original.

When younger id actually have a convo. Then i aged and then i’d troll them. Now i just silently avoid them. “Haha yeah!” As I hit the jets as far from the sickness as possible The wild part with these types is they’re like the zombies in the videogames that have identified an intruder. As you float away and leave your little traio of beauty behind you they ALSO obsess over that & try to sweep it away as u go. “Krnenshjanemdmdnwhzhsh” or whatevr the fuck they tell themselves as they crash out at the sheer idea of your existence. The fact someone doesn’t beleive EVERYTHING THEY SHOULD? OMG!!!!!!

Deeply inverted reality with these weirdos. Massively opposite living lmfao. Whats real is fake & what is fake and real

And its worse than ever before. Normies are gigacooked

Give your woman explicit pros/cons when you want her to do something

“You could go to sephora and spend 50 minutes walking around only to not get anything & kinda hate yourself because its expensive & you dont even like the women there anyway or we could go to the hardware store & get supplies for the picture that we’ll hang on the wall that you’ll see every single day. And we get to be together”

“Okay, let’s do that”

Moshi moshi

ABC “You could get drunk with women that talk shit behind your back anyway & wake up with regret & physical pain as you stand cramped in a moshpit cattlewaggon with shitty untasteful music that has been prescribed by the club’s handlers or we can go eat pasta on the water & not destroy our bodies”

If she chooses club over that shit she just hate you lmao. Let her go king

ABC

U run from urself cuz u think if u enact ur full self it will be too much for people

Fuck it. Flip ur psyche. Go from “im scared to stand out” to “watch me stand out”

“I dont wanna rock the boat” to “imma rock the boat so hard its gonna be a troll”

Lean IN, not out.

Fuck blending in Also don’t be me. Be you.

My expression is my expression. Do not copy me. Find YOURSELF.

How do YOU EXPRESS if you didn’t know what anyone else did? It’s so you that you overlook it.

Feed THAT thing strength. Don’t ask “how do i be like him”. Ask “who am i when i don’t know how i’m supposed to act”

Then feed THAT part of you. Feed that part of YOU that has no map. It transcends all approval & validation because there’s literally just no lane for it.

Your aura is found in riding THAT THING upwards into the light of other’s attention. Not hiding it behind an already-proven way lf being that you took from another man

Grow YOURSELF. Not someone else.

Don’t be afraid to be alone. Cultivate your strength in the darkness of your room. Sit by yourself and heal yourself. Befriend yourself. Love yourself.

Then let yourself fly.

Was at extremely loud coffee shop and dude didn’t know what his wife wanted. I could see he was figuring out what to do because he needed info but she was on other side of this godforsaken screamchamber

He then enacts the most angelic & unique whistle i’ve ever heard. It was like some melodic bird type shit. It sliced through all noise & did not require that much effort at all

Wife then just comes around the corner & says what she wants & then leaves

Was 100x more effective than speech. Just got aggressively whistlepilled

It’s funny because naturally within human nature if somewhere is “too loud” and you REALLY have to get their attention you will just whistle naturally but i’ve never considered operationalizing that

Bro’s whistlegame was stupendous What’s also interesting is when I write posts from this energetic space it triggers “oh yeah bro i’ve been whistling since ‘97” or “yeah whistling is a great way to communicate x,y,z”

Once you are able to simulate “energetic dances” u can basically predict what responses something you throw out will generate within specific types of people

U can then use those stances however you please. You’re able to “shift” stances to use as a key to open whatever lock someone is holding onto

An understanding of human nature & a love for the game

If you pay attention to your life, you will often find what I call "intersections" where 2 "patterns of neglected order" meet at a head and continually "loop" on identical timelines

Basically 1 thing you're avoiding will "snap", & when it does, you'll, by happenstance, use something else that's about to snap to "fix it". But when you grab thing 2 to "fix it", you will notice thing 2 is at an identical "entropy point" as the last time you were in this position where thing 1 snapped. Once you notice this phenomena it will actually freak you out due to how identical these patterns have been repeating in your life but you never noticed it

The way I discovered this was with shower soap in Mexico city. I had moved into a new spot & the closest market didn't have normal shower soaps so I'd have to REMEMBER to go to the bigger market to get it. But all the had were these TINY ASS little shower soaps. So i bought a box & threw 1 in the shower

What would happen is i'd eventually use all of the shower soap. It would be a literal tiny little spec, and i'd be like "well forgot to add another shower soap in here" & then had to go get a new one

But here was what I noticed:

EVERY SINGLE TIME i ran out of the shower soap, there were "identical setups" of various things around my life. All of these things were looping simultaneously (i was focusing on working so I never thought about any of it) & never noticed until my attention was drawn to it as I would pull more of these tiny shower soaps out of the cabinet

When i'd go grab them, i'd have a T shirt on the same spot on this chair, i'd have some random package opened on the counter, and i'd have 5 watter bottles left in a package of 10

The 5th time I got a new soap, i walked out and looked at what my life setup was. It was quite literally identical. T shirt on chair, random package on counter, 5 water bottles left. I was like "WTF". None of this was conscious, but i kept leading myself to the EXACT same "corner". 2-3 "patterns of neglected order" were all coming to a head at the exact same time, every time

Once I became aware of this, I was able to see it in every area of my life. Once you identify these, you are able to basically "save" things a little better because you can see the "current state of something" & then know how it will eventually look based on old patterns/knowing yourself. It is self-awareness, but it is a little bit different in the sense that 1 item/thing's state can give you immediate data on another time as well. You are able to see "the being of you" is actually negatively imprinted on your ENTIRE ENVIRONMENT, and you're able to get data in 1 part of the environment & make educated guesses about another. When you get good at this, you can literally use old soap boxes to help you find shirts, you can use shoe locations to help you find keys, you can use browser tabs to help you determine tomorrow's productivity

It gets weird as fuck once it "clicks" and you see it You have to realize "everything as a reason". There's a reason that shirt is THERE. There's a reason your stomach grumbled NOW. EVERYTHING has a reason that you can discover, it just requires DEEP studying. Once you fully "get this", and you realize NOTHING is random (from cause & effect POV), you can start using actual data (what you actually see) to determine objective patterns of behavior.

Let's say johnny went out to drink on Sunday night & before he fell asleep he watched a podcast. He then woke up & went to work hammered & was unproductive

now in THAT situation - it is OBVIOUS that "podcast tab in browser" would mean "no productivity". Meaning, you could be like "why is this tab open" & he'd say "i got drunk and watched a podcast" and you could clearly infer he wasnt gonna do shit even if you didn't know him

The weird part is you can do this to YOURSELF on things you're not even aware are patterns. Your tabs RIGHT NOW have meaning, your clothes RIGHT NOW have meaning, and these patterns are looping with direct/indirect connectivity towards one another in ways beyond your current comprehension

Late 20’s is when you rebrand from fuckboy to old money If ur a fuckboy at 31 it’s like “alright buddy let’s get married and have some kids huh”

But if you’re old money & divorced at 32 then you’re classy once again

Easy choice

If you use full ai to write anything we should be allowed to throw your account in an internet dungeon & force you to only interact with all other ai accounts

Enjoy bitch Oh, wow! This isn’t just another aggressive use of language — it’s now a full-on assault of ai bots! It appears he’s grabbed the emdash (—) and is now inserting it into the anuses of other bots!

Oh, no! He’s now grabbing a mega emdash! —————————

Run away! Run away!

Living your life in full alignment (and being as principled as you can with it) often looks like a life of opposites

Ur lifestyle will look 1 way 1 year & the opposite the next year. The pendulum is always swinging & redesigns are always taking place. What works for new you may be something old you couldn’t fathom new you wanting/becoming/targeting

Ppl think “if i live in alignment its 1 straight shot forever!”

Literally looks the opposite. INFINITE zig zags & criss-crosses This is what happens when people feel “lost” or “unmotivated to go farther down the path”

It means their soul got it what wanted & has now pivoted - but they haven’t been able to get their mind to accept it

The GPS is always in u. But sometimes honoring it throws ur life into chaos. This is just how it ACTUALLY is & looks

An untrained psyche subconsciously wants “maximum certainty, so i can then go slow”. Completely flip this.

If it feels 70% directionally correct, fly at it like a fucking psychopath. ALL IN. FULL SEND. Ur entire orientation should be to GET CONTACT WITH REALITY. ACTUAL feedback

When you start, only 3 things u should care about. Question series:

1) Does this feel MOSTLY directionally correct?
2) How can I get actual feedback from reality as FAST as possible?
3) Am i “all in” like a psychopath?

Once all 3 “yesses” in place, u fly in & make all adjustments as reality gives u data/feedback. U don’t “GUESS INTO PERFECT”

You “FIX ALL PROBLEMS INTO PERFECT”

But in order to know/fix problems u gotta be in it. And in order to be in it u gotta run that question series People want to wait on sidelines forever without getting actual data

“Which thing should i choose?”
“Which way should i do it?”
“Which (input any question”?

Ask yourself “what’s the laziest possible way i could “try on” this thing & get my answer asap?”

“Can’t figure out my major!” - go shadow someone who has the job you’d get for a day. Give yourself 2 hours to find him.

Extrapolate

You want to look at every ops task in your business through lens of emotional dag rather than how complex/simple the task ITSELF is

There will be things that are “complex” but YOU can do quickly / “lightly” that have virtually zero drag. Speed

There are other things that seem retardedly simple (and are) but come with monstrous amounts of inescapable emotional drag for YOU

“Micro delegation”. U control outcome reins but delete all emotional drag point within whatever normal process is. Can design the dragpoints on top of eachother & have someone or THING chop them. U can also be a prepper instead of executer. Prep may reduce all drag & u just build in the handoff

Target is ALWAYS light, fun, bouncy
Throw all density away U may also sometimes confuse nonclarity weight with emotional drag. These are different things

Weight of uncertainty is not wieght of task drag but this MAY get conflated until you write it out. Uncertainty drag is ez fix, on opposite side u must correctly command someone to specifically reduce emotional drag of task. This will be a very unique type of delegation that can’t be “copy & pasted” because it’s stained with your essence. “Here’s my goal, here’s what i’m avoiding” & then correct every time a dot of drag is missed until it is all known/exposed

If someone can SEE and ARTICULATE all of YOUR dragpoints, u will fucking cook

Every tall rich charismatic entrepreneur that I know is like “there’s actually zero fucking wives” & then when I say “just fade all women and join the side of the incel” they finally start enjoying their life

MAJOR lesson in there. “Oh i’m with 8 figures liquid and im gonna spend time talking a fatherless 7 into marriage and kids!”

Brother… *places 2 fingers on each shoulder & softly lifts his chin*

Welcome to inceldom.

If ur young & lost just go for the cash

Fuck a passion. Fuck having fun. Fucking liking anything that you do.

Wake up, acquire thy cashflow, lift, boredmaxx.

Once it starts working, everything will become fun Bonus points if u just move into the middle of literal nowhere & figure it out

Empty apartment with 1 beanbag & a desk.

Nothing but boredmaxxing & cashmaxxing

“Treat her well” is a semantically confusing for dudes. fucked a lot of dudes into thinking they need to “do something” to get/keep a girl. Inherently subcommunicates “you alone are not enough”.

You don’t “treat her well”

You “lead & love yourself properly” & once YOU are solidified internally, everything you do via self-generated affection will ‘appear’ as the perfect thing, because it’s been blessed by internal wholeness/certainty (of which she residiually feels from all actions)

“Omg u gave me ur water 🥺👉👈”. Small things, done naturally, infused with ur being = “treating her well”. It’s the lens you have of YOURSELF, not a specific act/thing

Meanwhile some dude just gave a bitch a house and she still hates him

Moshi moshi She doesn’t like you: “Hey don’t do that” = controlling

She does like you: “hey don’t do that” = “thnx 4 proteccing me 🥺👉👈”

I thought that sentence was pretty self explanatory but what I mean is before i got the corp job i thought it would be gay & i’d hate it but it was actually fun af, got paid 6-figs for a job i did on literal autopilot & got off at 2:30pm, had all the homies there, and was “the guy”

Experiencing that made me realize exactly why people never leave. It hits every paychological human need at the exact same time lmao. U have to be lowkey sick in the head & actually about ur growth to bail on that. If i didn’t have the desire to turn my yearly income into my monthly income i would have never bailed. But soul overtook comfort & i needed aventure+risk+fun. I knew my potential was way higher than the world’s smoothest/safest 6 figures

A lot of life actually works this way. You think you’ll hate something (and will probably tell people how gay it is) BEFORE you even actually experience it yourself. then when you ACTUALLY experience it, You’re like “oh I get it”

Once i went through this experience I stopped making judgements on things I had never directly experienced because I was very aware how much of an asshat that made me

“Corp jobs are gay bro I could never get a corp job!” - guy that’s never had a corp job

https://x.com/retirementkeys/status/1980541539551178791

I will also say there was monstrous identity pain for me being associated with literal incapable emotionally-stunted normietards

I didn’t give a fuck about the fact iw as getting paid more / was “better”, me doing the SAME THING as some retarded bitch doing drugs in the bathroom while casting spells on me in her free time made a part of me hate myself. It’s like “what the fuck is you doing buddy” type shit lmfao. If u settle for bottomfeeder-accessible shit you’ll have always a little bottomfeeder alive inside of you

The wildest part about the corp world for me was how the adults are literally children

When I first got that job I was actually slightly offended because I thought the manager was being a patronizing asshole

Then i realized later on "oh no he's just genuinely trying to be understood by literal retards"

Then also realized how u can just gigafarm aura because if you have even the slightest modicum of competence ur basically a goldenchild. It's like if u were upper-echelon AAU player & then u decided to play w/ ur town team. It's like charity. Except when u do it in corp the soys rally against u & the women try to impose themselves as ur work wives but u have 2 fade all poon because u don't shit where u eat & ur a man of purity

I knew day 1 my stay was temporary. One time I was leaving office & this chick & i enter doorway at same time & she literally goes "oh you go first, you're way more attractive than me"

I was like bitch, what?

i wish I was joking. U can literally aurafarm ur way to sexual harassment in corp EASILY.

Don't focus on your ability to earn consistent income, instead focus all your time/attention/energy on how HIGH you can "tap" your income in a very short amount of time (2 weeks to a month)

if you target THAT ^ skill, then you have NOW created a "safety unit that is stored beyond the physical". You now have a bank account that you can hide in the clouds, and pull from whenever you want

That is where your focus/energy SHOULD go (raising the ceiling of the tap), and THEN you supplement your life with consistent income as the base/foundation.

U need income to keep ur raft riding down the river (consistent income), but u then need firepower to shoot ur squirt gun as high as u fucking can.

Once the height of ur squirt gun (how much you can make in a 2 week-30 day window) exceeds ur expenses for 1 YEAR, you are "free" - but invisibly. You've now just created your infinite bank account that is stored safely in the sky. hit list cuz ill start sending some emails soon probably again maybe

grantlannin.com/emails

Pretty fucking wild how effective the body is at storing emotional energy

You can "catch" your body holding reactions to shit like 20-100 times within a 24 hour window. Pretty fucking insane to think you have boomers carrying 70 years of that shit totally unchecked. Not even a basic bodyscan to go through everything & poke at it/release with psyche. Not even a little psychic self-massage. NOTHING.

fucking WILD. Physical massage is important but NOBODY talks about psyche-massaging yourself. I am constantly doing this. U have a tension? Go there with your mind, dive into it & wring it out like a towel. U can get in there & shake it up PURELY with your focus/attention & u can "unjumble" MOST shit that gets "balled up" within a 24 hr window

Continual mental massages, all of the time

One of the core psychological certainties of a healthy male psyche is never laying down the hand that pulls arrow from quiver, despite any & all temporary misses

U will eventually get absolutely fucking ROCKED by % odds, and when this happens, u r faced with a decision - do u gaslight urself/pretend what you just did was "retarded" because it's too high t of a play for a normie? Most DO. "ahh well, guess it was kinda dumb". "ahh well, guess that wasn't the smartest". Most backpedal into the normiepsyche when they hit the lows. But this is when u have to double down. This is when you stand by your own conviction that it could have been a GENIUS fucking play, if odds tilted into your favor

""Given a 10 percent chance of a 100 times payoff, you should take that bet every time"

To ever question your own decision to take the fucking shot, roll the dice, take the chance, whatever the fuck u wanna call it is virtually impossible if you're playing your own game psychologically & have the blinders on for you & your OWN life.

Only when u start looking around for post-wrecked approval & second-guessing the core essences of your being does the gaypsyche start attempting to creep in

Ignore.

More shots on goal

RUN THE FUCKING NUMBERS When u quit ur 6 fig job to go all in on ur dreams, and u have 4 cred cards maxxed the fuck out as u have zero idea how the fuck ur gonna pay them off before rent is due in 3 weeks

Do u go "well i'm a muhretard! Guess this was a bad idea!"

Or do you FIGURE IT THE FUCK OUT & RIDE IT ALL THE WAY TO THE FUCKING FIERY FINISH LINE

U KNOW THE ANSWER.

NEVER LAY THE HAND DOWN THAT PULLS FROM QUIVER

Lowkey insane your business can just have 20 year olds major in YOUR ROLES in college so you just have infinite employees. And they pay for the whole thing lmao.

✍️✍️✍️✍️ “Yeah you should DEFINITELY go into nursing Sarah”

*owns a hospital*

All the psychology sauce you need/want is quite literally just found in going after ur goals. it is ver sinple

On ur way there (if u actually go), u will realize 99.99999% of whats stopping u is ur psyche. the answers r found when u just try to fix ur own shit (by going after the goal - the fix is the byproduct). U will realize u:

- cant make a decision
- cant sit down & work
- cant plan something out
- cant get urself to do a task
- too tired to function
- cant stick to 1 thing long enough
- cant research long enough to find the answer
- cant track anything & lose everything
- cant have a harsh direct conversion

Etc etc. Then ur like "so how do i actually do (thing stopping you). Then in the process of solving it u learn way more about it. U go "oh wow, this is way different than I thought". Congrats. U now know psychology.

Wild to me that the average person doesn't realize the infinite psych training ground is literally strapped to them 24/7 U can only study/learn about something if there's a directionality attached to it. Without a target, there is no baseline/metric/foundation for comparison. there is no good or bad, up or down. U literally can't learn anything useful about anything, because you have no USE for it.

If u just try to look inside ur mind u won't find anything. Nothing there. But if u say "im going to make myself sit down and work for 20 minutes", now you get to observe ALL OF THE STUFF that is stopping you from doing that. "oh wow, this thing is fucking me up". Then u figure out how to beat it. Then when u do, congrats. u now have a piece of content 😂