TW: weight talk
Ya know, my dad is probably the only family member I have that has never body shamed me. Which should be the standard of course. I've gained a lot of weight in the past almost two years. My dad is fat and he's genuinely so happy for me
Which is weird to navigate when you're experiencing fatphobia (and I don't even count as fat I don't think) from relatives trying shame and scare you into losing weight.
And here is my dad, fat and happy who's just happy I exist and hyping me and my weight up.
I appreciate it and him but I was still so shocked to hear "she's getting fat" followed by "you look good!!!" from my stepmom and dad bc that's not the norm in my family. Fatphobia is rampant.
Me telling my stepdad I have ADHD and him replying with an incredulous "you?!?!" is exactly we need more Black
neurodivergence being discussed by actual NDs
He views me as the "good" and "smart" one so he couldn't fathom that I am neurodivergent.
There's of course the intellectual ableism there but also the complete lack of education on it bc people in my my family think "adhd = misbehavior"
And yes this isn't exclusive to Black communities but EYE am Black and therefore am highlighting how this common experience is shaped by my Blackness bc it's easier to believe a yt person has ADHD than a Black one unless the latter is behaving in a socially unnacceptable way.
This is such a good thread. I really urge y'all to listen to adoptees about the adoption system, especially BIPOC bc there may be people with really good experiences as an adoptee but there's a lot of trauma, racism, ableism and classism involved that built the foundation.
And something that's mentioned a few times in the thread (bc people get really sore ab this topic thinking it's about denying people the ability to adopt). Adoption should be about the child's needs and wants, not yours.
The issue is that the adoption system centers parents
My dad keeps telling me to grow my hair out and I keep telling him "no I like it short" even though I am growing it out bc I don't like being told what to do and I also don't care how anyone else feels about my hair.
Except for kids. I grow my hair out so I can entertain babies with my afro.
I met a baby who was absolutely ecstatic at the way my hair moved and kept signing "more, more" to get me to do it again and since I used to stim with my hair, I sat there for ten minutes shaking my hair just to make the baby laugh
In some of my disability groups I've seen people getting angry at EDS patients for calling it rare and stuff so here's a friendly reminder that most of us were fed the same bullshit and even now the EDS society is still pushing it heavily.
For a great amount of us, they were likely one of the biggest initial resources and when all the information you'd received is telling you that this disease is super rare, it's not wild that there's people who still think so, esp if they don't know many people who have it.
So like maybe extend a little grace. Navigating any of this is not easy nor is it always digestible.
I don't understand why, when someone in this admin tweets empty tweets about the way things SHOULD be and people naturally respond with "okay do it then" y'all get mad and tell them how it's impossible.
If so, what's the point in tweeting about it? Where does that get us?
Because either way the words are empty, no?
If it's impossible, I don't care to see tweets about the way things SHOULD be if you apparently can't change that.
If it is possible, I still don't care to see your tweets about it, do it.
I don't care how long it takes, what the checks and balances are or what the avenues you have to go through to work towards making it happen are.
I simply do not care to see you tweet obvious shit as if it's groundbreaking and new.
I've had a lot of questions about what games I play/wanna stream so I thought I should just make a tweet instead of responding to everyone individually.
My favorite game genres are rpg's, chill sandbox games and simulators.
Games I love:
- The Elder Scrolls Series
- Fallout NV
- The Outer worlds
- The Sims (like all of them for the most part?)
- stardew valley
- my time at portia
- watchdogs 2
- No Man's Sky
- Dream Daddy
Games I plan on streaming
- Spirit of the North
- Dream Daddy
- Stardew Valley
- Skyrim maybe
I get a lot of peace of mind from actively choosing to stop explaining myself unnecessarily to random people.
I wasted so much mental and emotional energy stressing myself out and getting sealioned when I'm literally grown as hell and have nothing to say to random ass people idk
Whether it be self-care, enforcing my boundaries or protecting my own health, I will not be letting y'all sucker me into stepping outside myself to explain anything just bc someone who isn't feeding, fucking or financing me, demands it.
Just because you want me to give me my life story so you can determine whether or not it's a fitting justification is a you issue.
everyday y'all get on here and tell disabled people they can easily boycott amazon, ignore the disabled people who are telling you why they can't, and uplift the disabled people who are shucking and jiving to say it's easy simply bc they were able to it.
It's almost as if disability is a varying range of experiences and what's easy for some people isn't easy for others due to a neverending range of factors.
And anyone letting you know their access needs and how they depend on Amazon is suddenly excusing Amazon or is ableist for supporting a company that exploits and disables other people.
anyway if you don't think you're cis then you're not cis. Idc if you do or don't feel dysphoria, change your name or not, use different pronouns or not or present yourself differently.
if you change your mind in the future that's okay too.
if you don't, even better. I'm glad you figured yourself out.
there's no rules to being trans outside of not identifying wholly with your assigned gender.
you could have been afab and still identify with womanhood in some sense but know that you're not a woman / not completely a woman. That's absolutely okay. That partial identification doesn't erase your transness.
I do have a bunch of new followers so maybe I should do my periodic introduction.
Anyway I'm Teona (they/she) and I'm a queer disabled writer.
I have Myalgic Encephalomyelitis, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Fibro and Chronic Migraines
I'm also autistic + adhd. I'm raising money for my service dog and typically tweet random things, stuff about Disability and chronic illness and my current struggle of not being able to hold a job or get treatment.
I'm applying for SSDI which is an exhausting experience so I also tweet about my frustration surrounding this.
So I tweet fun stuff and I also tweet about the realistic side of navigating inaccessibility, gaslighting and neglect as a Black Disabled woman
I'm absolutely terrified of dying and I swear I have no choice but to learn to get over that fear bc I'm constantly learning of all the ways the length of my life is shortened greatly by chronic illness alone and increasingly so with it's comorbidities.
I'd like to not think about dying all the time. It's hard enough dealing with intrusive thoughts and ideations I'll never act on and now I have to realize that if my depression doesn't take me out, my illnesses will bc treatment isn't likely to be on the horizon.
TW: death (joke)
me circa 2017: if my depression wants me dead my body gonna have to do it itself and stop waiting for me to do
this is exactly why I and my therapist agreed I wouldn't get an official dx. She trusted they I knew my own experiences and agreed that I definitely have them. This was pre-physical disabilities and getting those dx'd has been hard enough on its own