People don’t notice this but in my memoir, my brothers are never mentioned much. Where they are it’s usually an incidental detail or they were crucial to a story but you will not find a description of what they look like, their personalities or my relationship with them all. Now, to be clear, despite the awful catalogue of terrible behaviour towards me, I forgive them and love them still. The fact that they aren’t in the story is *because* I respected and loved them. So, what I did before the book was written was arrange for us all to meet in a