unwittingly, my father beat several lessons into me that he was unequipped to interpret. years of feminist study & therapy helped me to learn that you can’t parent your way out of trauma. i learned to see how much patriarchy has been offered to black men of my father’s generation as a form of healing. or at least how the practice of patriarchy presented itself to them as a way of knowing that they’d made it.

working on my chapter on the angela davis case, so thought it'd be worth mentioning this again:

davis was a grad student at UCSD when hired as a prof at UCLA in '69. she kept her san diego apartment & rented what she described as a "6-room" apartment in LA. each cost $75/mo 1/x her salary at UCLA was $10,260/year, which came to $863/mo before deductions, plus a supplemental 2/9 of her salary for a research grant. that's an extra $1,140 during each summer month. deducting state and fed income taxes and $8/mo for health care, comes to around $620/mo.

quick thread on why i stopped using my university-licensed zoom account. first, frankly, just bite the bullet and take eight minutes to watch this video, which was uploaded BY ZOOM ITSELF, which shows you the information an organization's—for instance, your university's—administrators have access to via zoom. /2

i'm an introvert whose job (teaching race & gender to 200-300 mostly nonmajor undergrads, 2x/yr) has required learning and experimenting a lot with cosplaying extraversion. it's been hard to do, but i think i'm pretty good at it now. i'm a switch. there are costs to that, tho (1) switch isn't simply a metaphor here. kink has actually taught me a lot in how i think about navigating my way into playing a role at work that feels at meaningful tension with my sense of self, and to be open to the possibility that there might also be pleasure there (2)