Everyone’s been here at some point…
The people you live with are TOXIC - they talk shit, they don’t support you, they drain your energy endlessly...
Maybe they fight you on:
- what you eat (CMON JUST HAVE SOME SLOP)
- What you drink (OH TOO GOOD FOR A BEER HUH?)
- You going to the gym (OHHH BIG MUSCLE GUY NOW HUH?!)
- You studying something (WHAT YOU’RE A LIBRARY GUY NOW?)
- you earning more money (OH BIG SHOT)
And so on…
At root, if someone genuinely has a problem with how you are acting within the confines of YOUR OWN CHOICES, that has nothing to do with them - then there are TWO reasons this could be happening:
The first is that you are coming across as rude or ‘holier than thou’ and judging others.
This is a trap we can fall into - particularly in the health space.
“Oh my god how can you eat that! Don’t you know its bad for you!” (When You were eating it last month).
Always try to be conscious of not judging others, because it doesn’t help.
What we judge in others we resent in ourselves
Look inwards FIRST
Now, the other reason - if you’re genuinely just minding your business and wanting to make better choices in your own self, and they still have a problem?
They are projecting their own insecurities onto you.
By you making better choices, it highlights in them a perceived LACK.
You cook your own meals, they will attack that which makes them feel bad for eating ubereats Tacobell.
You get more jacked, they feel bad about being skinny or fat so will try to take you down.
It is SO common that you will be attacked the most when you are improving yourself. MISERY loves company. Crabs in a bucket mentality.
WELL… here’s what to do:
View it as a training ground To create your IMPENETRABLE mind.
you are in the dojo. Every situation that stirs you up is an opportunity to detach from your emotions.
Smile, agree, play the game and enable as little friction as possible - Don’t get emotional or angry!
If you are smart you won't fight or argue pointless things they won't change their mind about, LEAD BY EXAMPLE
Sometimes people are at lower levels of consciousness
- this does not mean they don't deserve love. You have to learn to rise above.
Cultivate independence, earn your own money to spend. especially important if young w/ family
If that's not possible then disconnect as much as possible and sort out a new environment ASAP - removing your time and energy from relationships that are like this is your best bet.
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