Thread by @entrespire

BOUNDARIES ~ With the discovery of Orhan & Ifakat, Ferit turns to the worst of his attitudes. Trust in life broken, he goes overboard w/ his need to control. Simultaneously, Seyran becomes firmer w/ her boundaries. My 🧵 on Ep17 #YalıÇapkını/1

Though he came to Defne’s w/ wrong intentions, he responds to Seyran’s steadfastness. Through his caustic & eventually broken behavior, he lets her hold him, calm him down. He doesn’t shove her away. #YalıÇapkını/2

In this poignant scene where Seyran comes & holds him, Ferit says, “I’m sorry.” I interpret that as an apology for his/family’s weakness; that she has to witness this kind of betrayal, & also see the great Ferit Korhan be so broken. #YalıÇapkını/3

When she tries to make it about her own reactions, he rightfully tells her it can’t possibly match his emotional state. These are people he grew up under. Her understanding of his sadness & just holding him w/o demands is the sign of a woman sure of herself. #YalıÇapkını/4

She’s setting examples for how one can be supportive even when things aren’t perfect. One needs to rely on eo. She reaffirms by saying you’d do the same for me later in the evening when he doesn’t go down for dinner. #YalıÇapkını/5

In the meanwhile we see manifestations of Ferit’s emotional destruction. He reacts egotistically to Seyran’s job offer, esp. when he learns that Efe is another version of himself, just on steroids. Efe is a self-made, successful man on top of being a womanizer. #YalıÇapkını/6

When he tells Defne why he married Seyran, it only shows how delusional Feral Ferit has become. He forgot he married her b/c he was forced to marry someone from Antep & he just happened to like her more than her sister. Ferit is the biggest liar to his own self. #YalıÇapkını/7

And it’s b/c of this trait – where he keeps lying to himself abt why he’s w/ Seyran, his inadequacy laid bare w/ Seyran’s insistence in pursuing the job, that he goes after his groomed little puppet P. Step 2 of his mental devolvement: force control on what he can. #YalıÇapkını/8

His behavior w/ P is psychotic. Her reaction also suggests that she sees him as being sick. This isn’t how he was. He’s trying to hurt her to get her to cry. He keeps provoking her. As Seyran said, if he isn’t good, no one else can be good. #YalıÇapkını/9

Especially P, who’s been at his beck & call for years, can’t walk away. He’s the one who can call it quits. Thinking P doesn’t have it in her, he focuses on Serter as the source of her courage & goes after him. If Serter is neutered, P will go back to ‘normal’. #YalıÇapkını/10

Hitting a wall at Ps, he’s onto Step 3: manipulate power plays. He hones in on Sultan. He wants to test her loyalty. His mannerisms confirm a past dalliance (🤮). For now, Sultan remains loyal to Ifakat & gets punished for it. #YalıÇapkını/11

Seyran’s resolve against the Korhans, the female support & taking Kazim’s help to secure her position of power ~ intelligent & laudable. She’s establishing boundaries. The night before, she was willing to let Ferit express himself. In the morning – nothing doing. #YalıÇapkını/12

Though she doesn’t know Defne’s possible games, she rightfully sticks to her decision to meet w/ Efe & gather all the information before she decides anything. She doesn’t let Ferit’s words deter her & it’s interesting that he likes her establishing boundaries. #YalıÇapkını/13

Her ability to articulate his flaws & sticking to her convictions are part of what he respects. During this emotional upheaval w/ family, he trusts only her & lets her see his vulnerable side. W/ dinner in the room negotiated, Seyran teaches him abt compromise #YalıÇapkını/14

Ferit likes that Seyran played interference & protected his desire to be in the room. By the time they’re at the table, it’s a forgone conclusion that Ferit won’t object to her meeting Efe. A resurrection of their bet even has him agreeing to take her himself. #YalıÇapkını/15

His chat w/ Halis is beautiful. He is another figure in the family whom he fears but trusts fully. He understands his grandfather. He questions Halis’ advice to see himself through Seyran’s eyes; if there’s anger, understand the source of that anger. #YalıÇapkını/16

Ferit’s inclination to run from truths is embedded in his question, “wouldn’t it be worse (if I were to ask)?” One can’t grow w/o conflict & intimacy can’t form if one doesn’t learn from conflict. Feeling cared for by both Dede/Seyran, Ferit happily goes to sleep. #YalıÇapkını/17

This journey of being caustically unsupportive to his willingness to accompany her is progress in #SeyFer learning to navigate mutual boundaries & deepening trust. BUT we are talking about the mentally unstable Ferit the writer loves for us to hate. #YalıÇapkını/18

After these beautiful moments shared w/ his wife & Dede, salak Ferit is back to his pea-brained ideas about separating P from Serter, & is gratifyingly cornered by a swarm of mafia folks after he hits Serter. The fans cheer for him to be beaten #YalıÇapkını/19

The major takeaway for #SeyFer from this last scenario: Ferit dismissing Seyran & saying she’ll just wait b/c he said so crosses w/ Seyran taking the reigns of her own life & going to the meeting herself even though she’d trusted Ferit to keep his promise. #YalıÇapkını/20

The inconsistent behavior by Ferit has taken so many liberal interpretations of multiple medical diagnoses that the writer has only managed to produce a male lead who’s utterly despicable, w/ little left for redemption. #YalıÇapkını/21

Ferit has zero self-regulation, zero regard for Seyran’s well-being & happiness & absolutely no life plan other than coast on family name & money to feed his insatiable arrogance. Whatever little humanity had been built in earlier episodes are dead & gone #YalıÇapkını/22

This P business has extended far beyond its expiration date. There is no genuine depth to #SeyFer to root for. All their positive exchanges have gotten demolished by the unhinged presentation of scenarios that do little to build on plot or character. #YalıÇapkını/23

Ratings are on decline & will continue on this trend if writers can’t present their lead characters in a coherent fashion. The writers have to explain how Ferit ends up such a douchebag while he has access to the wisdom of Halis/ love of Gulgun & now Seyran. #YalıÇapkını/24

W/o explanations, it’s been a marathon of new & even more deplorable aspects of Ferit. I’m tired. I get it. He’s a nutjob. Get him committed or show progress already. All #SeyFer exchanges from beg. till now are hollow. I’ve reached my boundaries #YalıÇapkını/25