Combine those two toxins and you get misogynoir, the vile poison suffered by women of color, and more specifically, black women.
Yesterday I joked and told a friend the amount of rum it would take for me to discuss #misogynoir would put me in a coma. I wish that was funny. I don’t want to write about this sober. I’m not qualified to discuss this with nuance and deftness.
Also, I am out of rum.
Coined by a queer black feminist Moya Bailey, misogynoir lies at the heart of all of what we think of as intersectional.
If you could imagine a Venn diagram that displays the overlap of racism, sexism, transphobia, & homophobia, the cruel bullseye at its center is misogynoir.
For everyone who’s watched @HandmaidsOnHulu and thought: that is predictive of what will happen in this country as they attempt to strip women of the right to determine their own reproductive rights:
You’re wrong.
@HandmaidsOnHulu It’s not a dystopian future, it’s the actual history of black women in this country.
Part of the essential process of colonizing the Caribbean and the Americas was the systemic rape of Indigenous and African women.
@HandmaidsOnHulu Officially, the import of African slaves was banned in 1808, not for any altruistic reason, but for a fiduciary one:
It was simply more profitable to breed slaves than to buy them.
Black women's names were taken from them, their identity as humans all but erased.
@HandmaidsOnHulu They were treated like brood sows, their babies ripped from their arms at the moment of birth, and assigned deeds of property instead of birth certificates.
Black women were bred like cattle. Slaves, not tobacco or cotton, was the South’s most profitable industry.
@HandmaidsOnHulu At it’s peak, port cities like Richmond VA were exporting between 10,000-20,000 slaves per month.
The right to treat black and brown women’s bodies as possessions is in the DNA of this country.
Racism and sexism have acted as force multipliers for their oppression.
@HandmaidsOnHulu From Sarah Baartman who was paraded around in a cage like an animal for her beauty, to the pervasive portrayal of black women as hypersexual (by the men who were raping them), misogynoir is (& has been) a cudgel used to beat these indomitable women into submission for centuries.
Malcolm X once said The most disrespected woman in America, is the black woman. The list of grievances that are both racist and sexist black and brown women face daily exceeds my ability to convey.
@HandmaidsOnHulu I don’t want to create labor for any black or brown women reading this. I don’t want the indignities suffered daily to be entertainment.
@HandmaidsOnHulu If there are any women of color reading this who feel safe sharing their experiences (both muted and profane) for the purpose of enlightenment and edification, please do so in the comments.
@HandmaidsOnHulu Hopefully, men and women of good intent will share your thoughts, and develop demonstrable empathy for your pain, and unshakable respect for your dignity, compassion, and endurance.
This invite is open ONLY to women of color. Comments by anyone else will be summarily deleted.
Maybe.
Maybe my grandfather, a classically trained concert pianist, couldn't get work in his profession of choice because he 'didn't work hard enough." Maybe my father's father could only get work as a piano tuner, even though he was a master musician.
Maybe my other grandfather, a trained chef, never owned a restaurant of his own because he "lacked discipline." Maybe my Mom's dad never made it out of the back of the house because he didn't have the 'entrepreneurial spirit."
Maybe my Dad, who could read music before he could read, who composed his first concerto at 6, gave his first solo performance at 8, mastered 15 instruments, never got his big break because he just lacked star quality.
I call you friends with no cynicism. Historically, the majority of my friends have always been white. This is circumstantial.
When you are the only Black kid in your school, the only Black man at your job, when you've broken as many "First Black To (fill in the blank) barriers as I have, statistically speaking you're going to be surrounded by white people.
Understand: these environments are inherently hostile to me. Still, I have always drawn out people of genuinely good intent.
The circumstances which so often made me the only non-white person in your circles were not accidental; they are so by design.
One of my best friends caught Covid-19 in March of last year.
He is young (40ish), enjoyed sparkling health, a vibrant mind (he's one of the few people who can trash me at word games), and a robust immune system.
In his words contracting the coronavirus was the closest he'd ever come to death.
He survived. But he's what has come to be known as a Covid Long Hauler. He describes this a "a living hell; same guy, same mind, but imprisoned in a body that is attacking itself."
It has been almost a year since he "recovered." Because this is a novel coronavirus, doctors have no idea how to treat Post Acute Covid-19 Syndrome.
This morning I resigned from the Education Committee of @bcbrooklyn.
I am resigning in protest to their decision to hold an in-person convention in Brooklyn NY this summer, over my stringent objections, and suggestions for virtual contingency plans.
In 2019 I was asked to be part of the inaugural Education Committee for BCB. This request came after complaints of the woeful lack of diversity in their education., both in subject matter and presenters.
My acceptance made me the ONLY Black male on both the education committees for BCB and Tales of the Cocktail, two global leaders in hospitality education.
This Tuesday I noticed BCB announced an in-person convention for this summer.
If you've been paying attention to the presidential elections, by now two things are indisputable:
1. Black communities in Atlanta, Detroit, and Philadelphia are in large part, responsible for a Biden/Harris victory,* and
2. In the modern era, the effort to suppress the Black vote has rarely been as blatant.
From closing polling locations in Black neighborhoods to refusing to certify votes in majority Black counties, all pretense has been set aside.
The thinly veiled term "legal votes" has been hauled out and applied to majority non-white communities. At this point they may as well say "Black votes count for 3/5th of a vote.
Police brutality against Black people is what brought Black Lives Matter to international attention.