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Jan 1, 2020 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
1/ A friend's 23 yo girl looking to find a marriage partner, asked me for tips. Here's what I said.... Please comment/add your tips. Be as clear as possible on why you want to get married. Everybody doesn't need to get married. Don't get married because everyone else is...
2/ If you are going the 'arranged' marriage route, meet prospects who interact directly with you (not through their parents or relatives), spend time and decide... If you or your prospective partner cannot take responsibility for evaluating partners themselves, it's a red flag...
3/ Never interact with multiple prospects at the same time. You cannot/ should not compare people. If one doesn't work out, wait a while and meet the next person. Your attitude of commitment to one person (not comparing) changes the other person and you
4/ Ask the other person why he/ she wants to get married- there should be reasonable clarity and you should like the answer. Remember that you don't need to get married for sex- it is available outside of the institution. Also wanting to have your 'own kids' is an ego trip
5/ Do interact with families once you are clear and let the families interact with each other. Once you sense the dynamics, re-evaluate your commitment to the marriage, especially if there seem to be significant clashes between family cultures. Will you let these get in your way?
6/ Ultimately 'love the verb' will make your relationship deeper (actions) and 'love the noun' (romance) is temporary. So work on it. Marriage is not the same as friendship- it is different in terms of sex and expectations (credit: Ali Khwaja)
7/ Discuss a couple of things which are most important to you... Definitely whether you want to have kids or not...
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Jan 12
1/ I have been thinking about this comment of @docbhooshan in a @Genwise_ adda on developing socio-emotional maturity in children. It made sense intuitively but I did not fully understand why not being able to give a specific word for an emotion would ‘freeze’ someone.
2/ Some things are becoming clearer as I read about the topic. A child who clubs irritated, frustrated & annoyed- as ‘angry’, can’t acknowledge what they are going through and their emotions may escalate to ‘enraged’ and they may end up beating another child or cry hysterically
3/ A granular emotional vocabulary also helps us to perceive others’ emotions more accurately. Looking at this image though I realized how poor my current vocabulary is. In fact I recently confused indigestion (a sensation) for feeling stressed about work.

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Jun 10, 2021
1/ Generalists are obsolete in a fast-changing world.

Once upon a time, they probably helped to ‘see problems & opportunities’ because they could ‘connect the dots’ unlike specialists.

But then the pace of change was slow enough for them to have enough context.
2/ Knowledge of 1 area can be made relevant to another e.g. Babbage-from silk weaving cards to computers

Without enough knowledge of 1-2 areas, the generalist’s understanding is too superficial to connect the dots.

Specialists too cannot connect the dots outside of their areas
3/ Who will connect the dots then? We badly need the connectors.

“If we spend our whole life in a silo of a single discipline, we will not gain the imaginative skills to connect the dots where the next invention will come from.”- Andreas Schleicher, OECD
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Dec 15, 2020
1/ We may constantly complain about our harried schedules, but the real joy-killer seemed to be the absence of any schedule at all. Considerably less happy than the just-rushed-enough, are those with lots of excess time. theatlantic.com/magazine/archi…
2/ Why is that we cannot really enjoy 'leisure mode' for long? Why does it cede power to 'productivity mode'? The productivity mode deserves credit for scientific progress and technological ingenuity. But it has also brought a “malady of infinite aspiration".
3/ A hunter-gatherer tribe in Africa has consciously created customs and rituals to counter this "malady of infinite aspiration"
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Oct 17, 2020
1/ Tweeting live to give a peek into the 'Connecting the Dots' course from @GenWise_ A math assignment 'Journey to Lilliput' is being discussed. The 1st question is easy- it asks what is that single number factor which can be used to scale Gulliver's world down to Lilliput...
2/ Most children answer this correctly, but some use a factor of 3 to convert sq.ft to sq. m instead of using 3 x 3
3/ A discussion is happening on how wide national highways in India are...building on width of a single lane. A cute but perceptive discussion that ' We don't think Lilliput would have 6 lane highways'...so making a comparison to our smaller roads done
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Sep 13, 2020
1/ I just watched 'The Social Dilemma' on Netflix & also started reading 'Calling Bullshit' some days ago. Everybody should watch the film, understand how our 'attention is being extracted', how dangerous this can be and think about how we can change things... Image
2/ "..never before in history have 50 designers 20-35 yr-old white guys in California made decisions that have an impact on 2 billion people...who will have thoughts that they didn't intend to have because a designer at Google said, "This is how notifications work on that screen
3/ ..that you wake up to in the morning." So do I realize that I am in very real danger of not being myself any more, of not thinking my own thoughts? That the machine stands to gain from "addiction, polarization, radicalization, outragification, vanitification.."
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Jul 9, 2020
1/ Early specialization leads to more mistakes “The benefits to increased match quality . . . outweigh the greater loss in skills. Learning stuff was less important than learning about oneself. Exploration is not just a whimsical luxury of education; it is a central benefit."
2/ “Match quality” is a term economists use to describe the degree of fit between the work someone does and who they are—their abilities and proclivities. A researcher, Ofer Malamud, investigated the trade-offs between early & late specializers in the British education system
3/ English & Welsh students had to specialize before college so that they could apply to specific, narrow programs. In Scotland, on the other hand, students were actually required to study different fields for their first two years of college, and could keep sampling beyond that.
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