Thread by @Respexy

I can't believe I have to say this, but there IS a difference between saying men with mental illness should pull themselves up by their bootstraps and noting that men with mental illness do less to actively manage their health than mentally ill women do.

(And then frequently somehow blame women for their worse outcomes.)

Men have as much ACCESS to mental health treatment as women do. They choose not to access it for a variety of reasons. But like regular healthcare, when they DO access it, they tend to actually be treated better than women by the same practitioners.

Sometimes "as much access as women have" still means none! But it doesn't explain it across the board.

When you point out that men aren't as proactive about their mental health and often expect women to pick up the slack, you're accused of not caring about men's mental health.
Women have BEEN caring about men's mental health. MEN need to care about men's mental health.

Men, if you feel outraged by your peers' poor mental health outcomes? CHECK ON YOUR FRIENDS.

You know what happens when a woman in my social circle has a mental health crisis? The girls all get together to make sure she has what she needs. We do a meal train if necessary. We help with chores, errands and rides. We schedule low-pressure social time.

You know what happens when a man in my social circle has a mental health crisis? The women still do all that. Unless he A. has a female partner and B. doesn't want everybody to know he's going through it, in which case his female partner does all that alone.

(Until HER mental health breaks down, in which case see step 1.)