No, he's not the asshole. This is communication issues and the girl being irrational. Apparently without being asked, the girl has consistently cooked his favorite meals for the guy. So clearly she wants to please him, and he sees it. This is where their wires get crossed.
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Guys are practical, and he sees that the girlfriend wants to please him, so in his view he's helping the girl do it by telling her details about how he likes his food. The girl DOES want to please him, but her view is more emotional: she wants to be perfect naturally and
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to be thanked for it. The guy thinks he's helping her achieve her goal, but the girl doesn't hear constructive criticism, she hears her efforts brutally demolished. If the girl took a step back and a deep breath, she might his rationale. She makes a lot of effort and she wants
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to do it well, so why not let the boyfriend help her do it perfectly? I always ask for my man's honest opinion, and it's for my own benefit too. I work my ass off to make perfect food for us, and it'd be horrible to find out that I had all along made food he doesn't like.
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So I do my best to make sure everything I make is up to both of ours expectations, because that's how my work is most worthwhile. And there's a very simple solution to this couple's problems: communication, as always. Here's what the guy should do: Tell his girl that he meant
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nothing bad. That he appreciates all the work she does and enjoys the food she cooks, and that he thought he was helping. What the girl should do: try to see this guy's viewpoint and accept that there's always room for improvement and that's a good thing: you can always excel
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past your previous work! And since she has made it clear that she doesn't want the guy to help her cook or clean and hates it when he tries, she should accept that it was her own choice. The guy is at the mercy of her cooking then, and that gives her a responsibility, too.
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Girls: I know guys can seem inconsiderate, but they rarely mean anything bad with it. They just see things differently. And guys, take this into consideration: Don't talk to your girl as if you were talking to a guy. Be nice, be gentle and always explain where you're coming from.
And this goes for both sexes: Make sure that you say more nice things to your darling than critical things. Then they take the criticism well too, because they know that you don't just see their flaws but their good qualities and successes too. Compliment each other every day.
