Men - #BroTip - The right spouse can elevate you to another level in life. The wrong one will slowly or even quickly destroy years of progress you have made in life. It may not outright evident whether a person is going to be the right or wrong spouse for you.
So, don't leave the decision of who your spouse is going to be, to your parents alone. Sure, their experience and observation is important, but ultimately you have to think hard and fast about IF you need a marriage, and if you do, when you need it, and what kind of woman you'd
be willing to marry and take along your journey as partner. Coz, ideologies could clash, and you could essentially end up expending a lot of energy on fixing things with your spouse rather than accomplishing things in your life, which you don't want if you're an ambitious person.
What you want is someone who would help you save energy for the bigger better things and that happens only with an understanding, supportive, and equally visionary wife/woman. When personalities don't match atleast in core values, the alignment goes for a toss, progress suffers.
If all you want is a silent, peaceful, tranquil family life, even that requires a certain kind of woman to be conducive to foster such an environment at home. More often than not, you don't get such insights until after you're married. Hindsight experiences are dime a dozen.
Especially in the world of finance, investing, trading, success requires a lot of patience from your end, and that requires a lot of unconditional support from your spouse. You're better off being alone and unmarried than being with a quarrelsome and problematic person.
Drama is largely unnecessary, but most women are naturally drawn to drama, coz they are driven by emotions and their need for emotional spontaneity and satisfaction/thrill. There's nothing wrong with that, but unnecessary drama invited into your life can stall progress you can
make in your life without all that drama. So, be highly thoughtful and careful of who you choose as a woman. Education/Degree doesn't automatically translate into rational thinking - and this applies equally to both genders.
So, when you pick your woman, for a lifelong partner, pick with the awareness that you're going to be locked in a room forever, and there's never gonna be a key. Consider that there's no option called Divorce. And be very highly specific about who you choose with this in mind.
This gives you clarity about what red flags you don't wanna ignore, and what qualities you definitely want in a complementing partner, and gives you strength to let go of anyone within few days or weeks or months, saving decades of heartbreak.
Consider marriage the biggest commitment you'll ever make in your lifetime, and treat it with that much care and caution as you would if you were to put all your capital into one single largest biggest trade ever. You're either hero or zero. No risk management/stop loss.
Such a trade would require a lot of hard work, research, and knowledge that it has the highest odds/probability of working based on n number of data points you collected, read, and analysed by talking to experts, industry veterans, etc.
If you win, you'll win big. If you lose, you'll have blown up all your previous years of savings, and you'll have scarred yourself for a lifetime. This is how marriage is too. It's a hero or zero trade. Consider it such and tread with extreme caution, backed by proper data.
On a concluding note, don't rush into marriage, don't marry just because you're a particular age, or you have certain amount of money and settled in life or whatever. Assess if you need a partner, and then proceed with patience and calm - knowing fully what you're getting into.
I am not a veteran in marriage. I have seen/listened to/heard quite a lot of relationship stories from friends/family of such relationships putting a person on a downhill path, especially men. So, just be careful out there when you're putting yourself out on the marriage market.
