A role is like a job function and as with our secular jobs, we know that not everyone can perform every function. Some people are better suited for certain roles.
That’s why People are often tested for role compatibility
A person who was brought up with microwave food and loves it, will not likely enjoy spending time in a kitchen
Neither is lazy nor awkward, their background has programmed them to be a certain way.
Accept it or walk away. Simple!
Sometimes:
we see ourselves IN a role & desire confirmation or
we see ourselves WITH a role & seek a partner to fulfill it
Many people assume wrongly that a ROLE has a universal definition and EVERYONE has the same definitions.
This is a grave error!
i) know themselves: their WHAT & their WHYs
ii) know the WHAT & WHY of the ROLE
iii) confirm the parter has done (i)
iv) know their proposed partner’s WHAT & WHY
A retired boxer will be better suited as a bouncer or body guard than as a customer care agent.
The person must fit the role and the role must fit the person.
Many try to force fit their partner into their expectation based on their past experience that the other person isn’t a part of
More often than not, we want something modeled after our parents had/did or what they didn’t have or didn’t do!
Either way, benchmark remains our flawed parents!
Does your partner want to play these roles? You don’t have to marry to get these!
Why plan your life hoping on a fluke when you can take full control?
The self discovery journey will ensure you appreciate you, love you, forgive you, understand you and then, you can easily do it for another...your partner!!
Your programs must be compatible otherwise you will spend your life fixing problems.
Imagine trying to get diesel to work on a petrol engine. It’s way too much work