Their toxicity is like a sport. They've practiced with different humans
Theyll claim to change. And unfortunately bud, it's on you for consistently getting duped
Eventually, you need to sharpen that judgment. Take all the blame
Meaning they practiced it...
'Practiced being toxic? You sound like an idiot!'
Nah, its true
-intentional
-unintentional
So you set the goal to practice it.
Unintentional is when it happens without your awareness.
Well, you make yourself aware that you want to get better.
And you start talking to more individuals.
Intentional practice
'Example?'
Practicing being distracted.
'I wanna be more distracted today!'
Yet it happens....
Why?
Going from content piece to content piece.
Which relays as thought to thought in their mind.
They are PRACTICING being distracted...
unintentionally tho
The people you consider extremely toxic may not perceive themselves to be the same.
It's because they invested a lot into unintentional practice
in a destructive way.
-Shifting blame
-Pretending to give compliments while really insulting
-Turning others against you
And expecting them to change because you 'wish' it ain't going to diddly squat
Whether we are trying to pick up a habit.
-dealing with setbacks.
Whether we are trying to drop a habit.
-dealing with withdrawals
Remember champ, they have been doing unintentional practice.
Yessir
'I can't believe that this human is not updating paradigms.'
This makes logical sense.
But not sense in the emotional intelligence world
'Why?'
Bc intellect is objective science.
Emotional intelligence is subjective science
That's when the judgment becomes sharpened.
But the pain is worth is bc it makes you tougher
Constantly getting duped is your problem, not the other person's
But if you want to be logical, then stick to objective science.
The world of dry facts & rational.
Those rules do not work with humans tho
-rage
-anxiety
-a loss of answers
-peace
-judgment
-a lot of answers
And extracting knowledge from it.
When you can properly do this, you will understand why the toxic human behaves the way that they do
They have rewired their perception for the worst.
Corroded their vision
Don't hate them. Empathize with them
Maturation is a game of being more like water rather than trying to brute force thru things.
And you get there one day.
One step at a time
Either learn that now or later.
But we all learn...
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