Everyone's Asking Their One Black Friend (tm) To Help Them Understand These 4 Things:
1. Is this a good corporate statement? 2. Did that person REALLY die of police brutality... 3. ...Or was it actually mental illness? 4. But if we defund police, what about X?
Answers below:
1. That corp. statement is passive trash, unless:
(A) a huge donation was made, or
(B) a leader is resigning, to be replaced by a BIPOC, or
(C) there's a CONCRETE plan to re-allocate money, access, & influence to BIPOC.
If none: it's no good.
2. Yes, it was police brutality.
3. It can be both: mental illness AND police brutality, and either way, defund the police.
4. Most police calls are about issues the police are ill-equipped to handle.
A shouting soldier with a gun is the wrong choice to help with self-harm, rape, drug ODs, domestic violence.
Defining a group of people in relation to some other identity actually serves to marginalize that group, and it positions the other identity (in this case whiteness) as the default, “normal” way a person “should” be.
It’s worth noting that this marginalization happens unevenly, to some identities more than others.
Our culture doesn’t, for instance, call straight men “non-gay non-women”.
But some groups get marginalized in this way often, “non-white” being a common example.
Story Time!
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Okay so a few weeks ago, my friend gave me a mattress to upgrade the one in my guest room. So I decided to pay the good karma forward...
...and give away my old mattress for free.
But it turns out, it's actually tough to give away a free mattress!
I got lots of interest, but people would have trouble wrangling a large enough vehicle, so they would cancel.
Finally...
...I listed the free mattress in a faceboop group called Bunz.
I quickly got a message from a guy who said he lived nearby.
I asked him, "Do you have a vehicle that will fit a double mattress and box spring?"
My university roommate just reminded me that one time, in first year, I signed up to be a guinea pig in a psychology study and it was the best study ever...
The rate was $15 for an hour. I was brought into a small blank room with a computer and a plate of tiny cookies on the table.
I was invited to help myself, so I tried one.
The cookies were great AND they had been microwaved, so they were warm and chewy, just excellent. I had a couple.