Women and Rough Sex (NSFW)
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a) I'm not writing *on behalf of* all women, so don't special snowflake me or gripe about generalizations;
b) I identify as a sub (submissive), but that's a relatively recent addition to my life after years of vanilla sex.
In other words, your results may vary.
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1. What is rough sex?
2. Do women enjoy it?
The first is relatively easy to answer. Rough sex is typically man-in-control and physical. Hair pulling, throwing the girl around the bed, facef*cking, choking, BDSM, etc.
There's levels.
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When women talk about 'rough sex' it's usually more about DOMINANCE instead of pain. When a man dominates or controls during sex, it feels "rough"... bc men are stronger than women.
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Notice that this is a huge spectrum.
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Lots of folks would reference 50 Shades of Gray here when talking about BDSM.
I won't.
That guy wasn't a Dom; he was an abusive stalker.
There are way better books, fiction and non-fiction, about BDSM that provide a far more accurate portrayal.
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Now that you understand that "rough sex" means a lot of different things to different people, we can start to look at whether women are really into it or not.
First, it should be noted, there are some racial differences to address.
Yes, I'm going to go there.
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My Latina friends absolutely LOVE rough sex, the rougher the better.
Most of my Black friends absolutely will NOT consider BDSM, esp. being tied up or whipped, for what should be obvious (historical) reasons.
My White friends: mixed views.
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(I'm not friends w/ any Dommes; they're different.)
Whether my friends use words like "control," "dominate," or "real man," it's the same.
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(Some of us are just wired harder for it than others.)
Thus, most women will respond positively to an aggressive kiss, intermittent spanking, and light hair-pulling.
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This is key: a novel sexual experience of any kind, but particularly rough/dominant sex, is going to make a huge impression on a woman.
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BUT.
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Chaining a girl to your bed who isn't expecting to be chained to the bed is going to freak her out big time. (And may result in jail time.)
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Start small (light hairpulling, one a$$ smack, etc.) and gauge her response.
If a smack = panty drop, good to go to the next level.
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(Ex. HoustonSUBgirl)
BDSM is not for everyone and partners with similar kinks can be hard to find.
Ask me how I know.
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For me, "rough sex" is not only enjoyable, it's necessary.
And on some level, whichever part of the rough sex spectrum it is... AWALT.
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