#ThemBeforeUs is drafting a #SCOTUS brief addressing who can be listed as a parent on a child’s birth certificate.
If your birth certificate did not reflect your biological parents, I’d like to hear from you! #Adoption#DonorConception
Our SCOTUS brief will address three key points:
- Birth certificates serve children, not adults
- Children have a right to an accurate birth certificate, regardless of whether they are donor conceived or subsequently adopted
- Biology matters to children #childrensrights
Natural reproduction sets limits on the age of motherhood. That benefits children who are more likely to have parental support through their young adulthood, and less likely to care for disabled/geriatric parents.
Surrogacy awards infants to grandparent-aged adults.
One year after she was heralded as the "world's oldest new mother" (age 66) this woman died, leaving her twins not only fatherless, but motherless. theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2…
I bristle slightly (ok, I bristle a lot) when conversations about fighting the #RespectForMarriageAct revolve around #religiousliberty issues. Why? Because what both our foes and our allies hear from religious Americans is, “If gay marriage passes, it will be bad for *me.*”
To which the world responds, “So the prob w gay marriage is, you might have to...bake a cake?? Deal with it, bigot.”
No one's interested in fighting SS marriage (or the myriad other ways the Left is redefining family) if it’s just about minimizing discomfort of religious adults.
But that's how all these conversations come across. Not exactly the approach that will fortify wobbly-kneed Senators or citizens to stand against a cultural onslaught.
Instead, we must forcefully highlight the child-harms of marriage redefinition.
The lives of these children are precious. But make no mistake, in their quest to “become parents”Buttigieg & Chasten have violated the rights of these two children. They have denied these twins not just one mother, but three. 1/4
These babies have been forced to lose their genetic mother, the egg “donor.” Thus these kids (like many other donor children) may experience identity struggles. They will likely seek her out to discover their medical history and behold the woman who reflects their features. 2/4
These children have lost a relationship with their birth mother, the surrogate, inflicting a #primalwound. Many children adopted at birth argue that this separation resulted in difficulty trusting and attaching throughout life. 3/4
My high schooler is explaining her support for #traditionalmarriage to a friend and we drafted a child-centric outline for her case. Here’s it is:
1. Children have a natural right to their mother/father. Adults care which baby they leave the hospital with- they don’t want just any baby. They want *their* baby because biology matters to parents. It matter to kids too.
2. Marriage unites the 2 people to whom children have a natural right and the 2 people statistically most likely to provide love/safety to kids & the relationship which guarantees a perfect gender balance in the home- moms/dads offer distinct/complimentary benefits to kids.
Back when I was a mother of two, I met a Chinese couple newly arrived on our shores. They spoke little English so despite the fact that she had formally been an accountant and he in tech, their US employment was that of a seamstress and a deli worker at the local grocery store.
They rented a 1 bedrm apartment which they shared w their teenage son they brought over a couple years after their arrival. Both worked as many hours as possible, often 60 or 70 hrs/week. They owned a few pairs of pants & shoes, some mismatch dishes & 2 bikes for transportation.
We were in Spokane at the time so there weren’t a lot of Chinese speakers, native or otherwise. I would stop by their apartment every week or so and Liang, the wife, and I would walk and chat. I would ask how she was doing, she would answer “tired” but always with a smile.
When talking w a friend expressing personal pain over the situation in America today- perhaps a black friend who has been followed around in a department store by security, regularly pulled over because they were profiled, 1
or grew up in a neighborhood segregated not by government edict but fatherless-induced poverty, that’s not the time to whip out the fact that only nine unarmed black men were killed by police last year. They don’t need to debate the merits or drawbacks of qualified immunity. 2
They just need you to listen and empathize and “mourn when they mourn.” Compassion needs to be your primary motivation in conversations with friends. (Romans 12:15) 3