Dear Virgin,
Let me tell you, I regret nothing, even though I’ve made many mistakes in my life.
Here’s the one regret I have: That I went ahead and had sex just because...
... I was about to graduate and it didn’t look or sound okay for one to graduate being a Virgin.
Let me tell you, I regret nothing, even though I’ve made many mistakes in my life.
Here’s the one regret I have: That I went ahead and had sex just because...
... I was about to graduate and it didn’t look or sound okay for one to graduate being a Virgin.
... My friends had done it and their stories sounded interesting.
... The guy I was with wasn’t paying me much attention,I decided sex would solve that problem.
My mother raised me better, she told me that sex was never a thing to take lightly, that it always had to be for you.
... The guy I was with wasn’t paying me much attention,I decided sex would solve that problem.
My mother raised me better, she told me that sex was never a thing to take lightly, that it always had to be for you.
She said it is tantamount to cheating yourself if you have sex just so the other party can: (a)like you better
(B) be satisfied or (C) stay with you.
I didn’t listen to her, I had sex anyway, for ALL the wrong reasons.
Immediately after I had sex with this person,
(B) be satisfied or (C) stay with you.
I didn’t listen to her, I had sex anyway, for ALL the wrong reasons.
Immediately after I had sex with this person,
he looked at the blood-stained bedsheet in shock because he thought I lied when I said I was a Virgin. I noticed he immediately lost interest. According to him, he couldn’t deal with virgins, “you people have wahala.”
This was the man I wasted my first ever sexual experience on.
This was the man I wasted my first ever sexual experience on.
He had succeeded in making my body feel like a BURDEN.
I could have waited, waited to be treated right, waited to do it for me because I was TRULY ready for the experience. I could have listened to my inner self, she asked me many times, “what’s the hurry?”
I could have waited, waited to be treated right, waited to do it for me because I was TRULY ready for the experience. I could have listened to my inner self, she asked me many times, “what’s the hurry?”
I’m baring my heart to you today because you seem to think sex will make you fit in, since everyone has done it. It’s not true, you never have to fit in, not into any box, nor into any norm. You must live your life according to your terms and I promise you, the world will adjust.
Men have told you they can only date if you agree to have sex with them. Some have even broken up with you just because sex was denied them. I love you for staying strong,I admire you for choosing your convictions over flippant men.
Do you think sex will solve all your problems?
Do you think sex will solve all your problems?
It won’t because even with the right person who treats your body like a sacred cove, sex is only an amazing TEMPORARY reprieve. With the wrong person, you just feel a deep hole of dissatisfaction in your heart, and you’ll spend a significant number or years of your life,
looking for how to fill the hole; with meaningless sex, with other unworthy partners.
I know you have a checklist, I hope you concentrate on completing the other things on your checklist and wait for the amazing sex that you deserve, to happen at the right time.
I know you have a checklist, I hope you concentrate on completing the other things on your checklist and wait for the amazing sex that you deserve, to happen at the right time.
When pressure sets in, and you feel the weight burying your resolve, remember how much I respect you for not budging, remember how the standard you have set for yourself has inspired me.
Remember this letter.
I love you,
Ife.
#DANG
Remember this letter.
I love you,
Ife.
#DANG
