Dear First born,

I can feel your hope - hope that everyone will turn out well and you can breathe, and begin to properly save for the life that you really want.

To the one who has been bestowed the responsibility of the first born, not because of the birth order but because you have become the most successful in your family, I see you too.

You are no longer looked upon as the playful middle child, or the rebellious last born, you are now the leader of the family,

That time I said “No” when I meant to say “Yes”.

It was my first semester at Olabisi Onabanjo University, Ogun state. I had just met this guy who had a car which automatically signified some sort of privileged lifestyle. We shall call him Ama. I met Ama when he drove his friend to my house to see my roommate. Ama was a good lad but I didn’t like him initially. He wasn’t particularly good looking according to my standards, but he was quite stylish, funny and laughed with his eyes. M

The day I met Ama, he did not hesitate to tell me he wanted to be my boyfriend. I immediately told him I had an abroad boyfriend and I wasn’t available to date. He laughed in my face and told me, “I’ll take over from your London boyfriend. Out of sight must be out of mind.”

In June 2022, I had a wedding to attend so I went to my designer friend’s store for fittings. As I ascended the stairs, I remembered that I hadn’t returned the call of an acquaintance whom I’m fond of and I believe she feels the same about me. I stopped by the stairs and called her; she said she wanted to congratulate me on the opening of the new Dang! store and that she was one of the people who crashed the website during the first day of the mid-year sale as she, like many people, stayed up till midnight to buy her products. We shared some jokes, laughed then she got off the phone.

I remembered something else I wanted to ask her so I didn’t get off the phone as soon as she did. “Hello, hello…” I said to catch her attention but I believe she had put the phone down. I heard the voice of someone else telling her, “this your friend and her lies, you sha know those numbers she posted are fake? Who’s buying her products? You sef join her to be deceiving herself” That voice was laced with skepticism and disdain.

Note: I had initially posted a screenshot of the number of people that visited our website on the first day of sale.

Dear Ife,

I was previously married and got divorced after 10 years. I got a divorce because my husband was not I love with me and I was told by everyone that love would grow in marriage but no matter how nice I was, he was never emotionally available to me. He was nice but he was not in love with me. I was so frustrated in that marriage that after 2 kids and 10 years, I left him and he didn’t beg me to stay which is okay. A year after our divorce, I remarried a man that adored me so much I was not even confused about it. He had a child already and we became the happiest blended family. While my husband and I were courting, my ex husband got a new job.

#DearDang: I earn more than my husband, and it's affecting our marriage.

I have something that's been bothering me for a while now, and I don't know what to do about it. I can't even talk about it to my mom because she won't understand, and I don't want her to look down on my husband. I have known my husband for 8 years now, and we got married in 2022. 1 am a very hard-working lady. Coming from a family where we have no one to run to when we need help, I have to work so hard. My husband loves me, he helps around the house, and most of the time, he sorts out what both of us will eat. But in any slightest argument, he talks to me like l'm | nothing and always throws abusive words at me when we have a misunderstanding.

Dear Ife,

It took almost 7 years for my wife and I to conceive our twins. Before then we had tried everything and I just gave up and asked my wife that we should begin adoption processes, I didn’t mind at all but she said she never wanted to adopt and she would keep praying for God to do it. It so happened that I got back from my trip and got the good news that we were pregnant. My wife said she didn’t want to know the sex of the child so we didn’t bother insisting to know. When we had the children, I was out of town and my wife was with her mother in Calabar because she didn’t want to be alone while I was away. I asked my sister and my mum to go stay with her but she had already packed up and got on a road trip to Calabar.

On my way back from a work trip to Nigeria, I unexpectedly ran into someone I knew from a few years ago. This man was asking me out two months after I had broken off from a long term relationship and I was still trying to heal and find my footing again. Despite my intentions of not getting involved with anyone, I found myself giving this person some of my time and attention. I answered his calls and didn't push him away, even though deep down, I knew I wasn't ready for a new relationship. When I spotted him at the lounge, I couldn't help but smile and approach him to say hello. I expected a hug or at least a friendly smile in return, but to my surprise, he didn't react as I thought he would. He remained seated, barely acknowledging my greeting. This behaviour was completely out of character for him, as I had known him to be level-headed, respectful, and courteous. So I wondered why he would act that way.

I decided to take a seat and focus on my work, trying to put the encounter out of my mind. However, after some time, he came over and sat beside me. He said, "Ife, I am sorry about how I acted earlier, I didn't mean to be rude. I'm sorry."

When I was 24 years old, I worked at a "forex trading" company as customer care rep. I lived in Maryland and the office was at Anthony Village, this meant I could take walks to a certain point and then board a bike at an affordable rate to my destination.

One day, as I walked to work and not far from home, a sleek BMW pulled up beside me. The older man driving asked where I was going, upon learning I was headed to Anthony Village, he generously offered to drop me off. I accepted.

In the car, we exchanged introductions; his name was Ken.

Many women talk about menstruation and the pain plus discomfort that comes with it in a light tone because we have gotten used to it. I am profoundly inspired by women's resilience, quietly enduring through it all.

Today, I'll be speaking specifically on the attitude of the society to a woman whose cloth is stained by menstrual blood.

Did you know, she is still a source of comedy, shame and disdain?

Imagine being laughed at while you're bleeding, your bones hurt, your back aches,

Dear First Born Child,

From a very young age, you have been under pressure, to set an example, to take care of your siblings and be a shining light and good example to them. So, you hide your worries, and everything else that makes you human and you present a perfect front, one that can be emulated; you can’t be nothing short of excellent - this is what is expected of you.

You’re expected to have, and even when you don’t, you’re expected to give anyway. Once in a while, you’re asked, “how are you?” But mostly, you are asking the questions

Here’s how my “never touch” emergency fund saved me.

In 2014, I decided to buy my first -own to live- home in Lagos. Before then, there was a money fund account where I saved 40k a month since 2009. At the time, I was earning 180k a month. It was a direct debit that never failed I told myself I would never touch that account until I had my first child and I’d transfer the money to his or her account.

However, in 2014, when I decided it was time, I had put all my money into a business transaction and returns on that transaction were delayed by the bank

Dears, here's a list of what NOT to say to couples waiting to conceive. Help me to retweet and share to the wuzzup group and DMs of people who need to see it.

Today, I'm here to distribute kindness to those who pretend not to know what it means.

Here we go: 1. "Ah, sorry o, let my husband touch me small, na belle. Thank God I don't have this issue, I don't know what I would have done."

Dear, you don't have fertility issues but your other issues are many, one of them being a passively aggressive privileged braggart. It's not cute.

Dear DANG Community,

Gather here for quick village meeting, I’m about to sue Netflix to ri pe, they stressed me. “You” season 4 part 2!!! Ah, Netflix ti gbe wa landikap.

People of God, why am I so happy? You mean pe, season 4 part 1 was Joro to Joro? Listen, I can’t contain my joy. There’s no one that doesn’t deserve a second chance, including Joe.

All I know is that it’s good to mind your business in this life. Nadia’s parents sent her to school sugbonnn she wanted to copy Sherlock Homles.

Is that good?

Today at the train station, an old couple walked into the ticketing office, laughing together, they were on a video call.

The woman wasn’t looking at where she was going so she hit her right foot on the banner by the door and tripped.

She let out a small scream, which turned everyone’s attention to her.

Her husband immediately drops the phone, sits beside her, and holds her. The old lady is in pain. She says, “check my ankle. Oh no, it hurts Oliver.”

I help him pick up the phone and hand it over to him. He barely looks at me.

Let's talk about simple etiquettes while living with someone.

Whether it is your friend, a family member or an acquaintance, it is so common to fall into a bad pattern at home. This often leads to underlying resentment and unnecessary negativity.

#Thread 1. When you're being housed for free, you must understand that not many people are
INFINITELY nice. Sooner or later, you'll cross a line you never knew was there and the negativity begins. To avoid this, ask your host(s) what's expected of you: Curfew, household chores, etc

I’m done watching s€x life season 2.

Let’s get into it.

A #Thread Let’s get Kam’s handsomeness out of the way real quick because what???

So strong, so kind. Those eyes of his portray a good heart and pure fondness for Sasha Snow. I knew he would change his mind about Singapore, he looked like a man who wasn’t ready to lose a second chance.

My first boss, when I was in Oil&Gas was a woman. I hope she sees this tweet as I’ve never written about her this way before.

In honour of #InternationalWomensDay , I’m writing this for and about her.

It was 2008, I got this amazing job as a receptionist at an Oil&Gas firm. I realised the MD of the company was female and this didn’t make me feel some type of way, I was there to do a job. So, I did my job. I told myself I’d be the best receptionist ever.

Every day, I’d watch this woman walk past the reception desk, looking expensive, and simple.

I’ve received many DMs and responses to question tags regarding how many women are stuck in a relationship where their partners refuse to cut ties with their exes, especially the ones where the situation does not feel right to you.

So, today, I’ll share my experience about this. I was with someone whom I knew was in constant communication with his ex. He said the relationship was over but he valued the friendship with his ex and wanted to maintain it. I’m an adult, I know that a relationship can be over and irredeemable. Still,

I have watched “Elesin Oba” and I do not blame the people who expected entertainment but got confused instead.

I am an art student, who majored in literature, I understand the movie, seeing as I’ve read the book.

However, when filmmakers adapt plays into motion pictures, they must imagine that no one has read the book and for that reason, simplify the story to an acceptable extent and give the story better artistic expression.

Real intellectual art can be entertaining too. I believe this is where we must take serious lessons from Hollywood.

Dear DANG Community,

Online and offline, I got you. Let me give you quick gist about how I hung out with Dang! Community members last night in Budapest and I tried my best to help them solve a quick problem but it ended in “AH!”

A short #thread. As you may have seen on my Insta story, My friend and I went Pub crawling last night with our handsome tour guide, Levi. We were joined by two other DANG! Members. They are a delight I must tell you.

As we arrived at the 3rd club, one of them said, “Ife, look at that cute guy,

In 2007, I borrowed money from a friend - N9,000. It was a lot of money for me back then. I had exhausted my borrowing and dashing Grace from my siblings so I had to fall back on a friend to loan me some money.

I was going to pay her back from my allowee. However, life happened and I couldn’t return the money in full when I promised I would. I told her. “Please let me give you 5k now and balance the remaining next month.” She disagreed and said she wanted all her money at once and immediately,she didn’t want to “spoil” the money.