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Dears, here's a list of what NOT to say to couples waiting to conceive. Help me to retweet and share to the wuzzup group and DMs of people who need to see it.
Today, I'm here to distribute kindness to those who pretend not to know what it means.
Here we go:
Today, I'm here to distribute kindness to those who pretend not to know what it means.
Here we go:
1. "Ah, sorry o, let my husband touch me small, na belle. Thank God I don't have this issue, I don't know what I would have done."
Dear, you don't have fertility issues but your other issues are many, one of them being a passively aggressive privileged braggart. It's not cute.
Dear, you don't have fertility issues but your other issues are many, one of them being a passively aggressive privileged braggart. It's not cute.
2. "Just keep trying, it will happen for you don't worry."
E ni pe? Don't worry? Just keep trying?
Has the couple been playing? Oh, they should try harder abi? People that have s3x everyday and 3 times a day during ovulation should try harder?
Sodiq, I'm talking to you.
E ni pe? Don't worry? Just keep trying?
Has the couple been playing? Oh, they should try harder abi? People that have s3x everyday and 3 times a day during ovulation should try harder?
Sodiq, I'm talking to you.
Let's talk about simple etiquettes while living with someone.
Whether it is your friend, a family member or an acquaintance, it is so common to fall into a bad pattern at home. This often leads to underlying resentment and unnecessary negativity.
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Whether it is your friend, a family member or an acquaintance, it is so common to fall into a bad pattern at home. This often leads to underlying resentment and unnecessary negativity.
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1. When you're being housed for free, you must understand that not many people are
INFINITELY nice. Sooner or later, you'll cross a line you never knew was there and the negativity begins. To avoid this, ask your host(s) what's expected of you: Curfew, household chores, etc
INFINITELY nice. Sooner or later, you'll cross a line you never knew was there and the negativity begins. To avoid this, ask your host(s) what's expected of you: Curfew, household chores, etc
2. Except otherwise stated by your host, do not eat the last piece or portion of the meal in the kitchen. If you want to eat an apple and there's just one left, let it go. If there's one more piece of meat left in the pot, do not touch it.
My first boss, when I was in Oil&Gas was a woman. I hope she sees this tweet as I’ve never written about her this way before.
In honour of #InternationalWomensDay , I’m writing this for and about her.
It was 2008, I got this amazing job as a receptionist at an Oil&Gas firm.
In honour of #InternationalWomensDay , I’m writing this for and about her.
It was 2008, I got this amazing job as a receptionist at an Oil&Gas firm.
I realised the MD of the company was female and this didn’t make me feel some type of way, I was there to do a job. So, I did my job. I told myself I’d be the best receptionist ever.
Every day, I’d watch this woman walk past the reception desk, looking expensive, and simple.
Every day, I’d watch this woman walk past the reception desk, looking expensive, and simple.
I loved it so much. She would wear a t-shirt tucked into wide pants and then adorn her neck with a tennis necklace and diamond studs. She was tall and preferred to keep her weave short. I was impressed but what impressed me most was her work ethic.
When I was allowed to,
When I was allowed to,
I’ve received many DMs and responses to question tags regarding how many women are stuck in a relationship where their partners refuse to cut ties with their exes, especially the ones where the situation does not feel right to you.
So, today, I’ll share my experience about this.
So, today, I’ll share my experience about this.
I was with someone whom I knew was in constant communication with his ex. He said the relationship was over but he valued the friendship with his ex and wanted to maintain it. I’m an adult, I know that a relationship can be over and irredeemable. Still,
it doesn’t mean there was never love there and that feelings disappear overnight. Bearing this in mind, I didn’t complain immediately.
Another reason for not speaking up earlier was because he is a great guy and part of his top priority was to make me happy as much as he could.
Another reason for not speaking up earlier was because he is a great guy and part of his top priority was to make me happy as much as he could.
On my first day at a real job, I told myself, “this is the very first day of my life, AGAIN. I’m not just a receptionist, I’m the very first reason people will decide or decline to do business here.”
I said this to myself because I had googled the qualities of a receptionist.
I said this to myself because I had googled the qualities of a receptionist.
So that’s what I did, I received everyone that came through the door as though they were kings and queens.
My salary was around N45,000
A director noticed, and when his friend told him he needed an expert receptionist, the director recommended me.
My salary moved to N150,000
My salary was around N45,000
A director noticed, and when his friend told him he needed an expert receptionist, the director recommended me.
My salary moved to N150,000
Your job may seem small, like it’s “just” a job that gets you by but I hope you’re focused on performing it excellently. No matter how much you’re being paid, you must act as though your job is what will propel you to greatness.
Whatever your hands find to do, DO IT WELL.
#DANG
Whatever your hands find to do, DO IT WELL.
#DANG
I have watched “Elesin Oba” and I do not blame the people who expected entertainment but got confused instead.
I am an art student, who majored in literature, I understand the movie, seeing as I’ve read the book.
However, when filmmakers adapt plays into motion pictures,
I am an art student, who majored in literature, I understand the movie, seeing as I’ve read the book.
However, when filmmakers adapt plays into motion pictures,
they must imagine that no one has read the book and for that reason, simplify the story to an acceptable extent and give the story better artistic expression.
Real intellectual art can be entertaining too. I believe this is where we must take serious lessons from Hollywood.
Real intellectual art can be entertaining too. I believe this is where we must take serious lessons from Hollywood.
Odunlade’s acting was TOP NOTCH, he gave us all the feels.
I watched to the end and I knew that this wouldn’t be a widely
accepted movie.
Still, for once, Ebony Life chose not a make a commercial movie, and even though only a few people will understand the movie,
I watched to the end and I knew that this wouldn’t be a widely
accepted movie.
Still, for once, Ebony Life chose not a make a commercial movie, and even though only a few people will understand the movie,
In 2007, I borrowed money from a friend - N9,000. It was a lot of money for me back then. I had exhausted my borrowing and dashing Grace from my siblings so I had to fall back on a friend to loan me some money.
I was going to pay her back from my allowee.
I was going to pay her back from my allowee.
However, life happened and I couldn’t return the money in full when I promised I would. I told her. “Please let me give you 5k now and balance the remaining next month.” She disagreed and said she wanted all her money at once and immediately,she didn’t want to “spoil” the money.
I kept the 5k I had and suffered through the month while I avoided her numerous calls. I just wanted the month to end so I could pay her back. I remember sending her a text, promising her that the 5k I had would not be touched and I couldn’t pick her calls because I was ashamed.
#Flashbackfriday to last week when I sat beside former president Olusegun Obasanjo on the plane and we had a lengthy discussion.
Of course, I asked him tough questions and he answered them straight, with no sugar coating.
A #Thread
Of course, I asked him tough questions and he answered them straight, with no sugar coating.
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Remember I posted this morning about how you can pray for anything? As soon as I saw President Obasanjo at the airport, I asked God to allow me to speak with him, I went further to pray that I’d be sitting beside him.
As we boarded the flight,
As we boarded the flight,
I found that I wasn’t seated beside him, still I asked the white guy beside him if he’d like to swap seats with me, he agreed without fuss.
I knelt beside president Obasanjo as a sign of greeting, I couldn’t see his lips move behind the mask, but I saw his eyes smile.
I knelt beside president Obasanjo as a sign of greeting, I couldn’t see his lips move behind the mask, but I saw his eyes smile.
If you were at O2 today wearing a Versace shirt and black Denim, walking with a lady wearing a white shirt and blue Denim, my Lord will judge you. I know both of you are Nigerians.
DANG Community, thank you for asking me what happened, I’ll tell you.
DANG Community, thank you for asking me what happened, I’ll tell you.
Was I not by myself, walking towards my friend after a rigorous climb to the top of the O2 when I saw these two people, well I saw the lady’s big bum bum first. Then I saw a big black hand rubbing the bum as they walked in front of me.
Not only that, the girl was making a video,
Not only that, the girl was making a video,
I saw myself in the video o, and instead of ducking, I smiled at the camera. Uncle with the big black hand saw me, frowned, used his big head to block the camera and kissed the girl, with tongue!
I felt offended sha. Why did he block my face from the romance that was happening?
I felt offended sha. Why did he block my face from the romance that was happening?
One time, months after we’d broken up, someone I dated said to me, “You expressed your love way too much and it kind of scared me. Also, you were too understanding, I used to be afraid that there’s something else or that you were pretending.”
Translation: “I prefer people who hold back and play games,
I also prefer drama over peace and quick settlement of issues.”
I hated to fight so I accepted apologies quickly and just expressed my love exactly how I felt it. Guess what? That was a problem.
I also prefer drama over peace and quick settlement of issues.”
I hated to fight so I accepted apologies quickly and just expressed my love exactly how I felt it. Guess what? That was a problem.
Months after we broke up, he came back, apologising profusely, because he realised he took all of that peace & love for granted.
However, I just couldn’t go back to that situation anymore.
When you think you prefer manipulation, games, and drama over peace, ease, and honesty,
However, I just couldn’t go back to that situation anymore.
When you think you prefer manipulation, games, and drama over peace, ease, and honesty,
Hello everybody, @LeighJKBoerner here, C&EN organic and medicinal chemistry reporter. I’ll be live tweeting the First Disclosures of Clinical Candidates from the #ACSSpring2022 MEDI division. This year it goes from 11 to 12:50 pm et, and then again from 1 to 2:55 pm.
If you think I'll be tweeting cute molecules again this year, you are very right.
Session presider Nicole Goodwin from @GSK
has her introduction. Let's do this
has her introduction. Let's do this
IF I COULD ASK GOD FOR ANYTHING, THESE WILL BE MY REQUESTS:
1. That I fulfill His purpose for my life, and not just be a passerby. At the end of it all, I can boldly say that my life was well-spent and I made an impact in people’s lives.
1. That I fulfill His purpose for my life, and not just be a passerby. At the end of it all, I can boldly say that my life was well-spent and I made an impact in people’s lives.
2. That I continue to learn to love myself and care for myself; the decisions I make concerning my life favor me and make my life better.
3. That I am able to take care of the people I love; to make their lives easier and softer,to never a source of sorrow to those who love me.
3. That I am able to take care of the people I love; to make their lives easier and softer,to never a source of sorrow to those who love me.
4. In helping others to be better versions of themselves, I also prioritise my own life, growth, and mental health.
Today, I’d like to - once again- address people in their early 20s.
When I graduated from Uni in 2006 (22 years old) I had a plan - Work for a movie company, save, write my own movie. The plan didn’t work after NYSC when I realised those movie companies didn’t pay much/at all.
When I graduated from Uni in 2006 (22 years old) I had a plan - Work for a movie company, save, write my own movie. The plan didn’t work after NYSC when I realised those movie companies didn’t pay much/at all.
Sometimes, I would walk to Opebi from Maryland Bus-stop because I couldn’t afford public transportation so I changed plans: Get a job that pays you, make money, then write. My goal was to be a writer so any job I took at the time was okay as long as I was making money.
In 2008, I worked in a wealth management firm as a receptionist- my first real job. I would hear conversations about investments but mostly they were huge sums that seemed far-fetched at the time. I was just striving to survive and my belief was that only rich people invest,
On this platform, we address the men 98 out of 100 times when it comes to issues that concern us. During these conversations, I don’t see women asking me to switch the questions back at them (the women). We focus on the exact topic (s) and discuss it.
When I address women directly, I see comments like, “Ife, the right thing to do is to ask the men why…”
But today I’m addressing the women dear, shall we stay focused?
So many odds are stacked against women already; we know that, we address that.
However,
But today I’m addressing the women dear, shall we stay focused?
So many odds are stacked against women already; we know that, we address that.
However,
some ladies get upset when a sad truth is being addressed about women, I suddenly become judgemental, the things I have not implied become implied, the lines between my statements are no longer paragraphs but invisible space loaded with meanings I myself haven’t even thought of;
I remember that time I tried on a love that wasn’t mine.
I convinced myself that it fit. Also, love itself told me, it belonged to me. I’d watch the real owner wear it while I waited for my turn to try it on.
I had only a short time to try it on though, because it wasn’t mine.
I convinced myself that it fit. Also, love itself told me, it belonged to me. I’d watch the real owner wear it while I waited for my turn to try it on.
I had only a short time to try it on though, because it wasn’t mine.
Then I’d pray to God, ‘let this love fit me. My heart wants it, love wants me, love had said to me many times, “I don’t belong there, I’m not happy there, I belong with you.”
Still, it didn’t fit.
So, I took love to a seamstress, “fix it for me,” I said.
Still, it didn’t fit.
So, I took love to a seamstress, “fix it for me,” I said.
The seamstress turned it inside out, looked at me with pitiful eyes and said, “The owner has fitted it perfectly on herself, there’s no space left to adjust for you.”
I knew the seamstress told the truth, deep in my heart it was clear, this wasn’t my love to have.
I knew the seamstress told the truth, deep in my heart it was clear, this wasn’t my love to have.
It was the 90s, everything good happened on Sunday-night-Tv, especially for kids and families. However, Sunday nights without power were the worst days for us, especially because not one flat in the compound had a generator.
No generator meant the parents had to entertain us which wasn’t a bad idea in itself, except that on this day, I was itching to share special news with Ngozi, the first child of our neighbour, mama Ngozi.
As we all sat in the living room listening to Mama share her childhood story with us, my mind left the present, all I could see was Ngozi telling me I was too young to wear a bra, she said all the boys would think I was too old and they wouldn’t toast me. I ran upstairs,
Let’s talk about the “good girl syndrome” today.
Turns out, many women have the desire to be thought of as easygoing or being raised to be a good girl. When you investigate deeper, you find that they’re more interested in looking like a “good girl” to men, not to everyone.
Turns out, many women have the desire to be thought of as easygoing or being raised to be a good girl. When you investigate deeper, you find that they’re more interested in looking like a “good girl” to men, not to everyone.
Even when you know it’s time for GBAS GBOS and then some, you do everything “right” to avoid any conflict or, “get in trouble.”
Aunty, come off it!
It saddens me that, after all these years of women's increasing independence and power, so many women still live their lives,
Aunty, come off it!
It saddens me that, after all these years of women's increasing independence and power, so many women still live their lives,
seeking validation from another human just so they can be seen worthy and/or acceptable to date.
When you don’t get the expected good treatment, you say things like, “I guess good girls always finish last.”
When you don’t get the expected good treatment, you say things like, “I guess good girls always finish last.”
Yesterday, we all saw a video of Omoh F., a Nigerian soldier assaulting a woman because he had his uniform on and he had a belt. Simply put, he assaulted her because he could.
While this was going on, a young man in the audience repeatedly said to the lady being assaulted,
While this was going on, a young man in the audience repeatedly said to the lady being assaulted,
“He can be your husband o...respect him.”
A woman is being assaulted, another man asked her to stop arguing simply because, in another life, this assaulter could be married to her which automatically gives him the right to beat her while she’s OBLIGATED to take it.
A woman is being assaulted, another man asked her to stop arguing simply because, in another life, this assaulter could be married to her which automatically gives him the right to beat her while she’s OBLIGATED to take it.
Therein lies the reason we say patriarchy is ingrained in our society. Not only do men hold the power, but it is also generally expected for them to wield it as they please without repercussions.
This brings me to my question: WHY IS FEMINISM STILL REBUFFED BY MANY WOMEN?
This brings me to my question: WHY IS FEMINISM STILL REBUFFED BY MANY WOMEN?
This evening, I drove past Lekki Toll gate, I realised I had become accustomed to that place being our peaceful protest ground. So I parked my car on the right side of the Toll, alighted and stood by the car, my back rested on the driver’s door.
Compared to the air of hope, unity, excitement and determination that I was used to on that ground, I felt a deep emptiness, not the one permeated by nothing but an emptiness that felt wrong: VOID.
A tear dropped, I folded my hands and looked around,
A tear dropped, I folded my hands and looked around,
the anger, sadness and grief that I’ve been dealing with came back in full force, and I allowed myself to feel it. Through my tears, I saw the young man who brought me the green whistle and asked me to blow it loud if anyone harassed me,
Last night, I chose to calm my spirit and sleep early. This was after I had cried in frustration in the shower.
I’m up now and after a deep soul search, I have made the following decisions:
I’m up now and after a deep soul search, I have made the following decisions:
⁃I may not run for office but I’ll join a political party that aligns with my values.
⁃I will take it as my sole duty to encourage youths to join a political party that aligns with their values.
Yesterday on my Insta Story, I asked people to tell me what moment of their life they would take back if they could. 89% of responders (yes, I counted to be sure) out of 536 responses said they wish they hadn’t rushed into marriage when they did.
If you’re already furious at me,
If you’re already furious at me,
calm down. Let me discount your arguments before I begin:
1. This post isn’t against marriage.
2. If you’re truly happily married, your marriage is a blessing to you and not a source of constant worry, unhappiness and feeling of entrapment, this post isn’t for you.
1. This post isn’t against marriage.
2. If you’re truly happily married, your marriage is a blessing to you and not a source of constant worry, unhappiness and feeling of entrapment, this post isn’t for you.
Why do women rush into marriage just for the sake of it? I researched and asked people as well, especially some of those who responded to the insta story question. Here are some quoted responses:
- “It just seemed like the next step to take, we had dated for so long”
- “It just seemed like the next step to take, we had dated for so long”
I’ve just finished watching “Oloture” and I must say that this is the most creative and realistic ending a Nollywood movie has ever had.
I don’t think the dialogue was smooth and seamless but for the first time, I didn’t dwell on the hitches; the story is quite compelling,
I don’t think the dialogue was smooth and seamless but for the first time, I didn’t dwell on the hitches; the story is quite compelling,
the reality of women being an endangered specie more glaring than I’ve ever seen in a Naija movie, the horror of sex trafficking, revealing.
There was a scene where a man hit a woman right in the middle of a tight Lagos traffic, he carried her on his back and roughly swung her
There was a scene where a man hit a woman right in the middle of a tight Lagos traffic, he carried her on his back and roughly swung her
around until he was able to fling her into a bus. ALL THE WHILE, everyone minded their business, including military men.
Can I tell you about the locations of this movie without revealing too much? The story was told through the locations; so true to life, practical, AUTHENTIC!
Can I tell you about the locations of this movie without revealing too much? The story was told through the locations; so true to life, practical, AUTHENTIC!
I’ve just gotten off a call with a 34-year-old lady who was sobbing painfully because she doesn’t get attention from men even though she’s pretty and funny.
When her friends insult her, even playfully, they’ll say, “Why do you think you don’t have toasters?”
When her friends insult her, even playfully, they’ll say, “Why do you think you don’t have toasters?”
And when there’s a fight, the words are, “no one wants you.”
First off, I think it’s a psychological/self-esteem issue that many women assume they or other women are worthless because they lack Male attention.
First off, I think it’s a psychological/self-esteem issue that many women assume they or other women are worthless because they lack Male attention.
Your friends and family love you, show you attention but you think you’re not worthy because men haven’t let you know it?
How pitiful!
“Why do you want male attention so bad?” I asked her.
She said, “I’ve been single for too long Ife, I’m tired, I don’t want to grow old alone”
How pitiful!
“Why do you want male attention so bad?” I asked her.
She said, “I’ve been single for too long Ife, I’m tired, I don’t want to grow old alone”
Earlier today, I missed 4 calls from Beatrice, my housekeeper. I didn’t hear or see my phone ring because I had put my phone in silent mode as I was busy with work.
When I finally checked my phone and saw how many calls I missed from her 10 minutes prior, I got a little worried.
When I finally checked my phone and saw how many calls I missed from her 10 minutes prior, I got a little worried.
She had just left for the market, I wondered what could be wrong.
I returned Beatrice’ call and she picked up just after the first ring.
“Hello aunty, I don dey call you since o.” Beatrice sounded out of breath, as though she was walking briskly or had just rested from a run.
I returned Beatrice’ call and she picked up just after the first ring.
“Hello aunty, I don dey call you since o.” Beatrice sounded out of breath, as though she was walking briskly or had just rested from a run.
“What’s the problem? Are you okay?” My tone was calm but my fingers crossed.
“Ah,” she chuckled, “nothing much happen o. I forget fry goat meat for on top sink,I no remember to put am back for freezer. I say make I quick call you make you no chop am.”
Huh? I was super confused.
“Ah,” she chuckled, “nothing much happen o. I forget fry goat meat for on top sink,I no remember to put am back for freezer. I say make I quick call you make you no chop am.”
Huh? I was super confused.
