I’ve been sitting on this for a while now, wondering whether to bring it up, concerned that it might open up a hostile debate around family court proceedings that, frankly, nobody needs.

I really hope that any unhelpful comments can be avoided. Here goes.....
Lawyers, could I ask that if you are contacted by a LiP needing advice about child contact arrangements and they are talking about #domesticabuse, that you do not:

a) sigh
b) eye roll
c) tell that person to use their common sense.

Here’s why:
The chances are that person will be scared, distressed, confused & struggling with navigating terrain not designed for lay people

It doesn’t matter if it’s a woman or man
Whether you believe there was #domesticabuse or not.

The reactions are demeaning,dismissive & not necessary
And yes, I do realise that most lawyers aren’t this tactless and this isn’t meant for you. This is really a request for someone who possibly doesn’t realise the impact they could have on someone.

Thank you 💜
PS. The reason for this thread is that I am aware of a Resolution solicitor whose attitude has been anything BUT non confrontational and constructive.

#legaltwitter
#familylawhour

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What kind of ecosystem breeds #coercivecontrol?

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First and foremost, a climate where bullies are rewarded.
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