So the key to understanding the Gender Vow Process is that the man can eliminate a woman's vow but CANNOT stop her from making one
If he zaps it, she'll re-vow immediately. This repeats ad nauseam until he gets the message
It's not a weapon of man vs. woman b/c it's 1 sided relief. It's only for her benefit
Because if a husband & wife are fighting & she vows to make his life tough, she can keep it up until he listens.
In a healthy family, zapping is a gift. In unhealthy it's a way to make people reconcile & negotiate.