Once in a while you just level up, see something that clicks, and nothing is quite the same after that. Those life defining shifts in perspective.
This one is not easy to describe. It’s about how we model and speak about power.
One life ended, and another began. Things *really* changed.
Then I realized that to a lot of people, power isn't about self-determination, power is about control.
This is *extremely* deep for me.
Life went on.
If I got out of my bucket, why do I want to spend my time pushing against yours.
We avoid it.
If you get rid of the voice in your head which orders you around, the inner dialogues etc. it's very, very, VERY unattractive to spend your time ordering other people around.
It just does not work.
If you speak aloud, the more people listen, the more that inner authoritarian feels heard and cared about.
***Power is the ability to create spaces where people are not trying to make you conform to their own inner authoritarian.***
The more power you have, the less you feel controlled.
Completely different from "people obey" power.
Authoritarian spaces are poison to me.
Even with Ethereum: I was an explainer. I couldn't *push* the way people wanted me to. I taught, but I didn't necessarily *persuade*.
The authoritarian structures of the world are not commonly agreed on. There are many different ones.
For most people, freedom is the right to pick which authoritarian structure controls you, not the absence of such control.
For most, "freedom" is moving to a place where the authoritarianism that surrounds you agrees with your values.
Consider vegans in squats.
You hear people talk about consensus leadership styles etc. Turns out they mean AS A LAYER ON TOP OF AUTHORITARIANISM.
I mean, I wouldn't *dream* of using the threat of firing people to motivate them. Fear kills minds.
It's obvious from this stance that democracy is simply picking which authoritarian voice will control you. Ugh.
But anarchy is almost always about local consensus on authority, rather than absence of authority.
Why? "People need rules."
Rule free space relies on people being incredibly aware of self-and-others. Some environments like Zen monasteries use rules to liberate consciousness, because the overheads of freedom-plus-complexity are absolutely immense. You need ways.
A good example is "leave no trace" camping: you take care of your impact in such a way as everybody else is left in an equally advantaged position.
There are two ways to get to "leave no trace."
An internal authority-voice which makes that rule, or an internal aesthetic which says "removing other people's freedom is gauche."
Effect is the same, but the state of being is totally different.
Freedom makes them afraid, because of the threat of disproportionate retribution.
In this culture, *graduated* freedom is extremely hard to arrange, because you can *change* what The Authority says, but you can't generally vary how *seriously* what the Authority says is taken.
Can do less rules, can't do rules with less force.
WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?
Not "the rules are gradually taken as guidelines."
Mode A: rules are obeyed and freedom is a state with less restrictive rules.
Mode B: freedom is a state of taking whatever rules are around as guidelines, eventually ignoring them completely.
These are two *completely* different things
Compare with "I'm not bothered what other people say, I just do what I like" which is one kind of absolute freedom.
Mode A: the rules I am given are less restrictive.
Mode B: I am less restricted by whatever rules I am given.
These two modes of freedom are continually misunderstanding each-other in society. They're two *entirely* different models.
So simple: Westerners wanted less restrictive rules.
Asians wanted to be less restricted by whatever the rules are.
Where as the Asian model of freedom is just to ignore it wherever possible, and the chaos of Asian freedom-cults is that.
This misunderstanding has left the Asians talking to clueless hippies for 60 years and more.
To me, money is the ability to walk off the map.
To most westerners, money is the ability to set rules for other people.
This explains close to 100% of the misunderstandings I have when dealing with my peers in business.
It's like a searchlight now.
It's got different rules, and different dispute resolution. It's an *alternative society* not AN ALTERNATIVE TO SOCIETY.
Different rules vs. no rules (or, rather, "feel free to ignore the rules.")
Different models of freedom.
The word I'm learning to pronounce is Power, in the western mode. Every fight that I've had on "stop trying to control me, I'm an adult, I do not need rules" where the local move was "Stop trying to control me. I am in charge. You do this."
The world expected me to manifest my power as telling other people what to do.
What am I supposed to do now, write a book of law?
Because now I can add "telling people what to do" in my list of potential game moves. I have to figure out how not to get entangled in control (the main failing on this strategy) but, if people want rules and structure, I can publish mine.
Very pleased with that!