You don’t get people to love you deeply but continuously showing them that you love them.
I don’t know how to explain this but I’ll try.
Don’t overstuff a person with your show of love, in the belief that it would make that person love you even more. Doesn’t work.
This is a pattern I’ve experienced in friends and even with parents; people who don’t cause you to put in effort naturally don’t enjoy the depth of your feelings.
The crazy realization that we’re going lengths for a person is what deepens our love for them.
It may seem that we fall out of love when they stop showing that they love us but that’s not really true. People still feel deeply for those that are careless towards them.
Love doesn’t thrive on effortlessness.