This is a really inspiring story that was sent to us by another detransitioner. There is not just one way to deal with gender dysphoria, and we are happy to welcome KJ’s perspective and experience on our page. 1/8
“I spent a lot of time thinking about what I wanted out of transition. I wanted to feel comfortable in a body that never felt like mine. I wanted to feel confident and happy. 2/8
After my top surgery, I felt better. But I realized that my goals were achievable without starting hormones. 3/8
Transition wore me down. I didn't want to be noticed as a trans man. I didn't want to tell every person I met my pronouns. I didn't want to worry about some day getting a hysterectomy. 4/8
No amount of validation and relief from dysphoria could distract me from these anxieties. I asked myself why I'd never even considered other options. 5/8
It was because they'd never been offered to me. I was told that I had to change my body to "be myself". And I believed it. 6/8
Now I don't accept my discomfort as innate. I challenge it head-on, and I try to understand it. 7/8
I don't regret my transition, but it simply wasn't sustainable. Still, it was a step to get where I am today– and I refuse to feel ashamed for it.” 8/8
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"At the age of about 14, I gradually began to question my female gender. In retrospect, it strikes me that I always wanted to get away from something I hated, rather than actually wanting to get towards something. That makes a huge difference to me nowadays. 2/10
By the end of childhood I developed a strong rejection of everything feminine. I had a very negative, destructive image of womanhood. 3/10
TW: Physical and sexual abuse, self-harming behaviours.
"I'm a 24 year old detransitioned female.
I was a tomboy growing up and aware of my attraction to other girls at an early age. 1/13
My mom remarried and I began living a nightmare of physical and sexual abuse from her new husband. I didn't know how to tell anyone and almost thought maybe it was normal. 2/13
My mom was very distant emotionally and I couldn’t ever go to her without feeling annoying so I kept everything to myself. 3/13
#KeiraBell is a lead claimant in a judicial review against the Tavistock clinic in the UK to challenge the idea that minors can give informed consent to hormone blockers. You can learn more about the legal case and support it here: crowdjustice.com/case/protect-c…
Thank you @KLBfax!
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“From age 14 I started to feel disconnected from my body and that there was something wrong about my strong gender nonconformity. 2/10
Transitioning to male seemed to be my solution after being stuck in severe depression and anxiety whilst the girls around me seemed to be so happy and content. 3/10
This is the 30th #detransition story that we've received! Thank you to all the inspiring detransitioners and desisters who contributed since the beginning of our project😊
"I am a bisexual woman in her 30s, who used to consider herself as genderfluid trans for about 8 years. 1/9
As far as I can remember, I've always been attracted to women more than to men... but I didn't feel allowed to be attracted to other females. 2/9
Probably because back then, the only examples of lesbian relationships I ever saw were porn imagery - so I internalized that idea of lesbians and bi women existing only as a male fantasy... 3/9
“I was abused and isolated as a kid. I did not have many friends. I went to college and found my tribe by starting a black woman’s organization, but it wasn’t long before white trans people came and bullied us into letting them in. 1/8
This was the first time I came in contact with the authoritarian nature of the community. At the time I was honored and even joined an organization to educate about gender and sexuality on campus. In college I identified as non-binary transmasculine person. 2/8
I remember taking showers with my mom and she would criticize my body in this closed off vulnerable space. I was raised in predominantly white schools and also had what I call racial dysphoria. 3/8
"I'm 30 years old. In total I spent around 6 years on T. For a short while I was so happy with the results. But it didn't last. T made me really hairy (like bigfoot hairy) and acne prone. I hated the bottom growth (still do). And I hated how... emotionless it made me feel. 1/10
I got a hysterectomy in 2018 because T had caused severe uterus and vaginal atrophy and pain. I bled so much after the hysterectomy I nearly died. It was traumatic. 2/10
I stopped T shortly after. I was depressed and terrified. I was overcome by grief and fear and couldn't come to terms with what the Fuck had I done and what had happened. 3/10