Thread by @IvhaniThaDon

1. Lobola is to thanks her parents, for raising a her.
Ans: what about his parents? Did they not raise someone worth being thanked for? #lobola A thread

2. Lobola is to thank her parents, they raised someone who is going to come take care and cook for you.
Ans: we've already established that gender roles are a problem, please don't take us backwards #lobola

3. Lobola is to thank her parents for raising someone who is going to carry your children.
Ans: IVF and surrogacy
Also, if she can't have kids or they don't want kids, can he have his money back?

4. #lobola is for thanking her parents, since she's going to take your surname
Ans: No she doesn't need to take my surname, we can use joint surnames.
Also, if he takes her surname, will she pay #lobola for him?

5. #lobola is our tradition
Ans: what about other traditions that we've forsaken? Some cultures require your brother or father to sleep with your wife if you can't have kids, are you okay with that? Learn to let go of traditions that are backwards.

6. #lobola is to bring two families together.
Ans: why do we need to get to know each other at the expense of one person?

6. #lobola is to bring two families together.
Ans: let's just have a braai and get to know each other. You can bring your own food and beer.

7.1. #lobola is to prove that you can take care of their child.
Ans: is she getting married to be taken care of or they'll take care of each other?

7.2. #lobola is to prove that you can take care of their child.
Ans: can't she take care of herself? How was she raised kanti?

7.3. #lobola is to prove that you can take care of their child.
Ans: how will she prove to the guy's family that she can take care of their child?

7.4. #lobola is to prove that you can take care of their child.
Ans: can't I just them my bank balance? Why do I need to spend money to prove that I have money?

8. #lobola is not about placing a price on someone.
Ans: then why do you say things like:
Our daughter went to school, she had a degree, PhD, etc? She doesn't have children? Why is that used to determine the value of #lobola ?

9.1. #lobola is a gift to her parents.
Ans: since when is the gift decided upon by the receiver? Imagine giving someone a PS4, and they're like, "Actually, I want a PS5" isn't that ungrateful?

9.2. #lobola is a gift to her parents.
Ans: if it's a gift, why do we have #lobola negotiations? Why are you trying to negotiate what I'm giving to you as a gift?

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