As the weekend has brought with it some calm, it may be the right time to talk about the relentless outrage that preceded it, this time led by, upon & because of Kangana Ranaut, that spilled from online to offline and captured much of the news cycle..
2/ It matters little what happened and why; what matters instead is the trap I see most of us, particularly people who identify as liberals and left-leaning, repeatedly fall into: the outrage trap.
We are both bait and prey for this trap, and both consumers and products of it.
3/ Typically set in place by media, politicians and provocateurs, it uses social media algorithms, echo chambers, our dire need for social validation plus FOMO and peer-pressure to its advantage, to get us to be angry about things that were designed for exactly that reaction.
4/ There's a cycle to it:
Someone says/does something provocative/stupid.
Because it has been said, someone must share it and outrage against it.
Because someone has outraged against it, we must add our own outrage to it and share that.
And so on and on.. until it becomes news.
5/ So the reason for the online (& subsequent offline) rise of the cults of people from Hindustani Bhau to Kangana is that, to outrage against them, we amplify them.
Thereby spreading their message far & wide.
Thereby giving it (+ them) the importance/validity they were seeking.
6/ This is not to say that outrage itself is a trap: online anger has led to offline impact and social change, from #Blacklivesmatter to #MeToo.
This is to say that if we outrage about everything, then we are outraging about nothing. Because we are outraging about anything(!).
7/ Outrage sells only because someone buys it: and that someone is us. There is an outrage economy now, and its GDP is better than India's because it is meant to distract us from talking about the latter!
Outrage has become news only because we value outrage more than news.
8/ Add to this how social media algorithms incentivise our participation in the trending news cycle of outrage, to give us our own chances at being in the news, and perhaps even being the news.
And all this while, the only thing that does not receive attention? The actual news!
9/ But what if, hear me out, we don't share or give air to an inane/provocative opinion by someone who's very likely saying it to get our attention.
What if we don't amplify it and not enough people see it?
Does that opinion even exist then?
And will that person even matter then?
10/ It's unfortunate that we live in a world where we don't talk online about what the news reports, but the news reports what we talk about online.
There are MANY issues that require our urgent attention - and outrage. Let's pick our battles wisely, so the news has no excuse.
PS. Pro tip: If this thread annoyed you or pissed you off, don't outrage against it. Just ignore it. That'll teach me the lesson you want! (And repeat for anybody/anything not worth the news cycle..)
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I have been struggling to find words about the heinous and tragic crime of sexual violence and murder of a young doctor in Kolkata, and have only been amplifying stories of women & medical professionals so far.
But looking at the comments in so many posts of women, I’ve been horrified & disturbed.. but sadly not surprised. Hundreds of men have, as usual, chosen to respond with ‘Not all men’, ‘Men get raped too’, ‘Fake feminism’, ‘Victim card’, ‘Attention seeker’ and so on.
They are going to attack this post too, and I’m not sure if there’s any easy way to fight that mindset, so this post is aimed at the other men: who are feeling deeply uncomfortable today, and aren’t sure what men can do to help. As it turns out: we can do EVERYTHING.
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WHAT CAN WE DO RIGHT NOW
Listen, read and amplify
A lot of the anger today is aimed at men, and rightfully so. Instead of reacting to it or taking it personally, we must read as many accounts of women speaking up, to understand and acknowledge their pain. And we must then use our platforms to amplify as many of those voices as we can.
But this must not stop only at social media. We must create spaces among our families, friends and teammates, for women to be able to express themselves without judgement, shame or fear. Listen, but not to react, or even to respond, but to just intentionally, meaningfully and genuinely listen.
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WHAT CAN WE DO RIGHT NOW
Speak up and show up
It’s a shame that not enough men - even decent, well-intentioned men - are sharing stories or posts or commenting or supporting the women who are. A silent support is no support at all.
Of course, there will be men who will attack us too, who will write degrading messages like ‘nahin degi’ (which I’ve received a *lot*) or will try to find ulterior motives to this bare minimum. But there is strength in numbers - if enough of us speak up, others will too.. and it may just compel those who think otherwise to join us too.
But this support cannot be limited to online spaces: show up offline. Join protests. Add our voices to those of the women.
Wow, so #PoonamPandey is alive. A friend of mine told me in private last night that this is a campaign by a digital agency, but I was skeptical. Because could we really fall this low? Looks like we have.
So many things wrong with this. #Thread
There are hundreds of thousands of people who die from cancer every year. To use a cancer-led death as a tool for a publicity stunt is one of the most insensitive, thoughtless, vile ideas anyone's come up with. You've diminished real deaths & suffering, and made a mockery of a terrible illness.
Beyond that, you've turned the HPV vaccine into a punchline. I really hope that every woman who was considering taking this vaccine after the news of the death yesterday, goes ahead with it, because chances are that this will have the opposite effect: people will not want to be associated with anything Poonam Pandey was.
Spoke to @shrutisonal26 for a @timesofindia piece on 'The rise of alpha males' thanks to films like Animal, Gadar & <name the South blockbuster>.
While I don't disagree that hypermasculinity has made big bucks, I have a contrarian view on its rise. The reason? @iamsrk
#Thread
If there's a trend about so-called alpha males, and the associated misogyny, aggression and violence, I urge everyone to look at another trend: the giant success of the 'softboy' masculinity of SRK's 500 Cr+ blockbusters of this very year, Pathaan and Jawan.
Some examples:
In Pathaan, the introduction to Deepika's character is through an action scene where she saves SRK's character. And at no point does 'Pathaan' try to 'take charge' (or even try to cut himself loose).. he knows Rubina is very well in charge, and she's kicking all ass!
#Thread on the memeification of the Amber Heard-Johnny Depp trial:
Alright, so I know I'm going to get hate for this thread, but I'm a bit fed up of seeing the hundreds of (mostly Heard) parody videos + memes from the trial, and I'm a bit sick about what they represent.
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First: everything I know about the trial, I know against my will. I've never sought out, read up on, or watched videos of the trial - until it started seeking me. Until I wasn't able to escape it. Until it became pop culture the same way Trump did, *before* he was elected.
2/n
Second: I'm not going to get into the facts of the trial, because at this time, everyone has their own facts (her truth, his truth, the truth).
Irrespective of the trial's outcome, Heard has already lost. She's not a survivor, she's not even a perpetrator, she's a meme now.
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I keep thinking about the 23-year-old software engineer from IIT Hyderabad, who has been caught and jailed for giving a rape threat to Virat Kohli's infant daughter.
I'm glad he's being held accountable - but it's disturbing and tragic to see: this is who we are now.
His background seems antithetical to his actions:
- He studied in a premiere Indian education institution
- He worked at a top-tier food startup
- He is a software engineer who was studying to do a masters in the US
- He is from a higher socio-economic background
- He is 23!
And yet, why would a young Indian, who was well on the path of achieving the Indian 'middle-class dream', peddle in and pursue such horrific hatred?
What's more disturbing is: this is not even a question being asked, because of how normalised and endemic this hate has become.