I know quite a few individuals who have been abused by their partners. The abuse has been emotional, psychological and controlling and has had an effect on their self-esteem.
But they are not in fear of their partner.
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But they are not in fear of their partner.
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They want to stay in the relationship. They say they love their partner but they don’t love the behaviour.
Their partners are willing to address their abusive behaviour- in order to save the relationship.
Their partners are willing to address their abusive behaviour- in order to save the relationship.
But this is the problem:
Even though the partner has acknowledged their abusive behaviour and has done/is doing the work to address this, their partner is unable to move beyond it and is consumed with anger.
Even though the partner has acknowledged their abusive behaviour and has done/is doing the work to address this, their partner is unable to move beyond it and is consumed with anger.
And, they are unable to find the support they need, because ALL they have managed to find is *support* that says they need to leave, they are confusing codependency with love, that if they stay they are consenting to abuse.
When what they DESPERATELY want is help with how to process their sense of betrayal, their anger and how to stop punishing their partner for what happened.
Yet they are told time and time again that if they can’t *forgive*, they need to leave.
How is this helpful?
Yet they are told time and time again that if they can’t *forgive*, they need to leave.
How is this helpful?
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