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#HumanismAlways, Day 5

Him: "Them shoes you wearing. They some a your favorite shoes?"
Me: *looking down* "My shoes?"
Him: "Yeah. Your shoes. They your favorites?"
Me: *squinting eyes and thinking* "Ummm. . . I guess I like them. They're good work shoes for the most part."
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Him: "You mean they're good work shoe for YOU."
Me: *puzzled* "Huh?"

*silence*

Him: "Look here. If them ain't your favorite shoes--hell, your ONLY shoes, then you need to go on and retire 'em."
Me: *looking down at my shoes again* "Sir?"

His lip twitched with amusement.
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Him: "Dr. Manning you woke me up 2 different times this week with that damn squeaky shoe! And today you got both of 'em squawking? Unh UH!!"

*laughter*

Him: *pointing* "Them shoes gots to GO. Or you gon' need to kick 'em off for you get on 10A so folk can get some rest."
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*collective laughter*

Nurse: "Tell her how you really feel."
Me: *staring at my shoes* "Dang. I did notice the squeak. Guess I was in denial."
Him: "Well you need to get on out of denial. Or out my room in that shoe."

He laughed. Even though I knew he wasn't joking.
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He was right. I did love the shoes. And I know exactly when they started squeaking. It was the day after I got caught in the rain the week before. I guess I just hoped it wasn't as bad as I knew it was.

That night, I told my 14yo son. He asked me to put them on for a demo.
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Son: "Mom. Wow."
Me: *pacing the room* "What?"

He shook his head. Hard.

Son: "Mom. That's low-key inconsiderate of you. You seriously wore those in the hospital? Wow."
Me: 😬
Son: "I expected more of you, young lady."

He laughed. Even though I knew he wasn't joking.
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That got me thinking about all of the things that we totally notice but that we act like others don't.

Like the soiled white coat that you try to stretch one more day. Or a really squeaky (but comfy) pair of shoes.

If you noticed? Oh, someone else noticed.

Totally.
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And just because I was in denial (read: too selfish to fix or acknowledge the issue) doesn’t mean it wouldn't or shouldn't get called out on rounds.

Ha.

Because--to quote my son--it was "low-key inconsiderate."*

*And by "low-key," I think he meant "high-key."
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And this? This is just one more reason to work at building connections with patients. Because honest feedback happens best in the right climate.

Which reminds me.

That same patient got super comfortable. He gave me a little extra feedback before he got discharged.

Ha.
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Him: 🤔 "Dr. Manning? You with child?"
Me: 😳 "ME? Oh my goodness! NO, sir!"

*laughter*

Him: "Oh Lord. I'm sorry. But listen--try not to fasten all the buttons up your doctor coat, hear? It make it look like you--"
Me: "Noted."

😂😂

I love this job.

#7daysofHumanism

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