From the no longer existent Boxer Ceiling page on Facebook; "The term "Cotton Ceiling" was coined by a male “lesbian” porn performer to describe the barrier that transwomen face when denied sexual access to lesbians...
...Often people ask: "Why is there a Cotton Ceiling, but there is no 'Boxer Ceiling' to refer to the barrier that transmen face when denied sexual access to gay men?" We are here to say that there is a Boxer Ceiling, and it is a form of abuse directed at gay men."
"Boxer Ceiling behavior may be committed by anybody, whether trans or non-trans, and it includes any of the following:
I. Pressuring, coercing, or guilt-tripping any gay man into sexual contact with a transman...
I. Pressuring, coercing, or guilt-tripping any gay man into sexual contact with a transman...
...II. Claims that any gay man’s sexual rejection of a transman is “transphobic,” “bigoted” or “hateful.”
III. Any attempt to convince gay men that we should include transmen in our sexual boundaries because biological sex is a “spectrum”, a “social construct”, “not a binary,”..
III. Any attempt to convince gay men that we should include transmen in our sexual boundaries because biological sex is a “spectrum”, a “social construct”, “not a binary,”..
...IV. Any attempt to persuade or shame us into shifting (theoretically or in practice) the basis of our homosexuality away from the category of biological sex and toward the category of gender identity...
...V. Any attempt to persuade gay men that we must regard transmen’s bodies as “male.”...
...VI. Demands that we change the language that we use to describe our sexual orientation. Homosexual men know that there are two biological sexes, male and female (the existence of intersex people does not negate this fact)...
...VII. Any implication that homosexuals are less “free,” “woke” or “liberated” as others. For example, the suggestion that it would somehow be better to be “pansexual” or adopt a “Hearts Not Parts” attitude...
...VIII. Attempts to use the prohibition against “misgendering” as a weapon to push us back into the closet...
...When people insist that we must not categorically exclude transmen because “trans men are men”, we will not be bullied back into the closet because of fear of “misgendering” transmen by saying that our sexual boundaries do not include females...
...IX. Insisting that gay men’s sexual rejection of transmen is “invalid” because some gay men have experienced attraction to transmen. This argument is idiocy. It fails to take into account that attraction to a random person..
... on the street is not the same having the capacity for sexual intimacy with that person. It is entirely possible that a gay man could find an unfamiliar transman in a public space to be attractive. This does not mean that he wishes to have sexual contact with a female...
...X. Claims that “genital preferences” are “invalid.” Indeed, we reject the entire notion of “genital preferences.” Homosexuals (and heterosexuals) do not have “genital preferences.”...
...Bisexuals can speak for themselves about whether or not they do. As gay men, we desire not only male genitalia but the entire male body and male person. It’s not a “preference,” it’s our sexual orientation...
...XI. Claims that we are “genital fetishists.” Being gay means that we desire male genitalia as well as the entire male body and male person. As much as we get called “genital fetishists,” we are the ones who know that attraction is to the entire person...
...It is in fact trans ideology that wants us to become fetishists by considering “gender” separate from the entirety of the person...
...XII. Claims that gay men who desire penises should not categorically exclude transmen because “some trans men have penises.” No transman has a penis. A surgically-constructed phallus made of female skin tissue is not a “penis”...
...and it is not “male genitalia.” A dildo is not male genitalia. Gay men can enjoy using dildos alone or together; this does not make dildos “male genitalia.”...
...XIII. Claims that sexual or romantic relationships between men and transmen are in any way “gay” or “homosexual.” We support all love between consenting adults, but we will not be gaslighted into believing that opposite-sex relationships can ever be homosexual...
...Hetero and bisexual people do not decide what counts as “homosexual.” Lesbians and gay men do...
...XIV. Finally, we reject any attempt to humiliate us by those who say “Why do you care about this so much?” This is hypocritical...
...The trans community, queer community, and gender-identity community are precisely the people who should best understand that autonomy, self-determination, and control over our own narrative is important for any marginalized group."
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