Thread by @KrisAbdelmessih

Neat passage (where's it from?)

I'll add some rambling musing to this including the whole optimizing for grades thing (which btw I'm not wholly convinced is bad strategy despite the popularity of influencers to say otherwise)...

https://twitter.com/kchoudhu/status/1329847170569285633

I was told that good grades were the path to💰 and i only wanted💰.

and i only wanted💰 bc i was lazy (not bc i wanted stuff).

Of course this was all mistaken. I wasn't lazy. I was bored & school does suck.

I didn't figure this all out til my fear of being broke as my parents went away.

That I didn't figure this out for a long time can mean a few different things.

Let's see...

Maybe I didn't figure that out because I'm not so bright. Plenty of other non-silver spooners figure this out at a young age.

Or

Motivational idealist influencers who love to talk about Kahneman wouldn't know survivorship bias if it DM'd them a dck pic

Or most likely...

The advice you get is rooted in your elders' perception of risk. Their perception of risk is tyrannically path dependent because a person must live the live they have and not the hypothetical risk-reward life computed on some happiness frontier on an n-dimensional surface

So here I am trying to guide my kids in life. Balancing competing advice. Overcompensating for my mistakes which were the product of how my mind distorted my parents' best intentions. Zooming out I'm trying to model what they taught me, often with totally different details.

That's how I reconcile the fact that my parents are amazing role models even though there's plenty they were certainly wrong about.

The best I can hope for in life is not to be right but for my kids to honor life and consequences.

The capital "P" Privilege is people who love you enough to try for you. I always felt I was worth something bc my parents tried for me. All the time and very much to their ultimate cost. I count myself as being born supremely privileged because of that. Never a victim.