the "alright guys" clap is a kind of status marker
it's kind of like the click/snap at the end of "lights camera action" – it's a bid, a gesture to say "alright let's go". it's a bid at leadership, in a micro/local/immediate sense
broadly I think you only do it if you're comfortable leading a conversation. not all leaders necessarily clap, but all of these claps are "ok i'ma take it from here", which is a confidence marker
fun to try and look for gifs with different phrases that have a similar energy
thinking about a very specific kind of one-clap. nice coincidence here that the guy doing the clap is also the boss of the whole team, tho I don't think it's so simple as "only the highest-status person can do it". anybody can do it if they think they can
this is several claps but it's kind of the same idea. attention please. order, order
I’ve been learning a lot about people from the dozens of people who DM me every week. I don’t tweet about this very much or often bc I don’t want people to feel like they’re being used for content, but also... I think it can be helpful to others
A recurring thing I’ve noticed about some anxious, frustrated people is that they haven’t really investigated their ideas about what is good, what they want. They talk about certain ideals (growing an audience, climbing a career ladder, making money) like they’re non-negotiable
my perspective is: a lot of the pain comes from friction between how someone is and how they assume they’re supposed to be. Psychological abuse appears benign when it comes from inside the house
something amusing to me about how zack galfianakis has a full beard in all the posters and promos for Keeping Up With The Joneses, but not in the actual movie. Was this deliberate? I think it must be. I think they needed him recognisable on the posters but less beardy in the role
when I type in “Isla fisher” into Google it autocompletes “Isla Fisher Amy Adams”, apparently they get mistaken for each other a lot
ZG in a goatee kinda looks like a knockoff mark hamill
I knowwww that talking out loud about leadership can seem corny, cringe, pretentious, blah blah. I know. Talk is cheap. It’s easy to be critical. And yet... it’s a real skill that’s worth developing, dissecting, discussing
For starters I’d argue that everyone is a leader already. You are already the monarch of your own life, captain of your own ship, master of your own fate. You already have to navigate and manage the tensions within yourself - conflicting goals, desires and so on
when I was a child there was nothing I despised more than adults who clearly didn’t know what they were taking about, and the power they wielded over me, and the social norms that meant I couldn’t do anything about it
you could say that to some degree what I’ve been doing all my life is finding people who will listen to me and take me seriously because nobody did when I was a kid
freakin’ studied everything I could get my hands on to understand how persuasion works, how power works, what it is that makes people listen or not listen, what are the cues, what are the predictable patterns, traps, misunderstandings, why people blame and shun victims, etc
just piggybacking off a thought I’ve heard a few times: I intend to make a substantial dent in the loneliness problem, and I intend to not make too much money from it - and I think these two are intertwined
napkin sketch: teach 1% of people to be A+ community managers and leaders who create and hold space for other people to have meaningful relationships
create and support media that educates people on how to build nourishing relationships with the people around them
The problem is that people are always trying to monetise things, pursue profits, and growth, and these things are just not quite right for community and kinship. It tends to corrupt the whole endeavor. The golden geese keep getting choked to death