If the only answer to abusive people is successfully persuading them not to be abusive...

Then the abuse becomes everyone else’s fault, for not catering to the abuser sufficiently enough to persuade him.

Which is exactly the way an abusive person wants you to think.

So, don’t.
Our goal is not persuading abusive people. Our goal is stopping them.

If an abuser proved willing to be persuaded, then persuade them.

If not, abandon persuasion, and stop them some other way.
Insisting that persuasion is our goal seems like the moral position, because persuading people to do good is good.

But making it the goal is actually an immoral position. It makes persuasion a prerequisite. It cedes power to the abuser and responsibility to the abused.

Don't.
Persuasion, like a hammer, is a good tool but a bad goal.

Is persuasion bad? Depends on about what you want to persuade someone.

Is it the reason you persuade? I hope not.

It should be a tool. Is it a good tool? Only if it is effective, and appropriate to the circumstance.

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