To be candid many of us are unfair
We will know someone won't make a good husband or a good wife and instead of counseling such to remain single so as not to complicate the life of another person, we will be the one encouraging them and even matchmaking them all in the name of
sentiment.
I met a lady recently who told me her lecturer (female) was so good to her and talked to her about marrying her son (Who was in the UK)
She said she was single and open to the idea
The son comes home and the lecturer invited her to meet with him
She got to the house
and was treated like a queen
Then the young man's older comes to the house, and stylishly took the mother to the kitchen for a short talk. This lady said she wanted to take her plates to the kitchen when she overheard them talking
The older sister was saying "Mummy, you know he
is still dealing with that mental thing and you are pushing this young lady to him. What if he kills her? He almost killed the one he was living with in the UK and has refused to be treated or go for counseling since that time."
She said the mother said "Let them marry an at
least have a child. We will not say because he has some challenges he shouldn't have children!"
This is a very bad mindset
You should let his bad genes go to waste instead of spreading it to another generation
Many of us are guilty of this evil
Knowing the truth and hiding it
from potential spouses.
I know another family who knew their daughter was domineering, compulsive and difficult to live with. As members of her family, most of them can't stomach her.
Her mother started praying that the lesson she couldn't teach her
Her husband (being a young man
will be able to
She got married and made the life of that husband miserable to the point where the husband committed suicide.
Let us all stop this habit
Pastors do it and so does parents and relatives
it is like selling a defective product and hoping it will work!
Stop it please!
Their mother gave birth to five girls
Their father wasn't particular about having a son but their mother insisted she must have a son
She said she had seen a vision when she was a teenager that she gave birth to a male child and was even given the baby's name
She married quite
early, so she had some time to relax after the fifth girl was born
They were living at a "face me I face you" apartment in Eleyele at the time
Her husband was a cook with IITA
She was a typist
They both attend a uniform wearing church where all forms of manifestations were the
norm
After she had the fifth girl, she went to church to pray one evening, asking God about the vision she had and why it had not come to pass
She really wanted to have only four children but she didn't want to ignore the vision because she was convinced that male child could be
The brother came into his DM like a thief in the night
The brother said he needed some help
Things were tight and love was scarce
The brother said he was a Christian brother
The brother played the Jesus card
He told the brother to send his bank account details
The brother said
he would prefer that they meet
Silver and gold can come later
Can you please meet with me?
He told the Brother when and where
He sent the brother transport fare
They met and talked like brothers
The brother was quite smart
What he got when he was leaving
was ten times what he
would have gotten had they not met
The brother became a regular visitor
to his office
They would sit and talk about life and the gospel
The brother's situation was quite pathetic
No job, no money, nothing to show for his almost forty years of existence
He said he once had a job
He was at the office when he received the phone call
It was from the most unexpected source
It was from the administrator of the Headquarter of the church he was attending
He joined one of the branches of the church as a young man and had grown to become an altar minister. He had
always known he was called into ministry but he didn't know why he had been summoned to the headquarters.
He got there very early the following morning, he was barely seated when the pastor of the branch he was with also came in
They were ushered into the office of the pastor in
charge of the headquarter church
There was a few chit-chats
More like a job interview and then the pastor of the headquarter church told him his pastor was being transferred abroad on mission work and had recommended him to take over the affairs of the church
He didn't see it
The sickness came out of nowhere
At first, he thought it was as a result of his diet
He cut down the rice and other carbohydrates
He started drinking water only
He adjusted the time he ate too
He had never experienced any serious sickness before that season, the pain was terrible
it started at the amusement park
The church had organized a day out for all members to do sport and share some picnic
He was there as a staff of the church
His boss (The pastor) was also there to lead by example
Suddenly this stomach upset got a hold of him
He tried as much as
possible to hold it but the pain was everywhere
At a point he went to sit down and discovered that his chair was covered in blood
That was when he ran into one of the mobile toilets and discovered his body was all messed up
It was a strange ailment
He sent a test to his boss's
The first driver I employed in my life was employed in July 2020
I employed him for my wife
He came highly recommended and he spoke highly of himself too
I had always believed in trusting people and treating them as God treats us
Anyone who has ever had an encounter with me will
testify to this
I worked once with a pastor who treated people very poorly
Whenever i remembered how he treated his staff members, including me, I felt like retching
I have nothing against him personally, i believe he didn't know how to do better but I was determined never to
treat anyone like that in my life
God valued human life above all else
I am like God and i will value what He values
This driver resumed and was a calamity from day 1
He wrecked my wife's car twice
On both occasions, I had to buy two new tyres, two new shock absorbers and pay for
Her husband attacked the issue from a scriptural perspective
He quoted the story of Abraham and Sarah
He felt Sarah was the epitome of marital submission for believers and her life was an example for all Christian women to follow
He said Sarah called Abraham her Lord and followed
Him out of Ur of the Chaldees to a city shown to Him by God
Abraham was the first of His kind
The first Hebrew and the foundation upon which many religions were built till this day
His wife's obedience and support despite her background was instrumental to the success of their
marriage
Because Sarah obeyed Abraham at the right time when Sarah asked Abraham to obey her in raising a child through Hagai, Abraham obliged her, and when Sarah said she was no longer comfortable with Hagai and her son
Abraham, despite his reservations, threw both mother and