One summer in grad school, I was in the lab every day counting pollen with a couple of undergrads, and we all had very different musical tastes, right? But the one thing we could all agree on was classic rock.
We put on the classic rock station in the lab all day, every day. One of the undergrads started a game, where whenever a new song came on, whoever called our the name of the song and/or the artist’s name got a point, one for each. We kept score on the lab white board.
We kept this up all summer long, vari-colored tick marks next to our names. It was super close, because we were extremely competitive and all loved music.
One day, we came into the lab to find out that one of the postdocs, and I’m not naming names, had erased our scores to draw some conceptual models and equations and other nonsense. I don’t remember exactly, but it was CLEARLY A GROSS MISUSE OF THE LAB WHITE BOARD and a betrayal.
That was the end of our competition, and it’s probably for the best, because rather than compete with each other, we united against a new adversary that day.
Just kidding. All was forgiven.
Probably.
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I just participated in this session on failure, and I learned so much from my fellow panelists and the amazing, supportive comments from attendees. I wanted to share a few concrete strategies that have helped me. #AGU20#INV15#AGUEarlyCareer
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