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@Aella_Girl

18 Dec

People have way bigger variance around sexual promiscuity than you think. Some people genuinely strongly prefer trad, monog, conservative sexuality; others genuinely strongly prefer nontrad, polyamorous, publicly expressed sexuality.
both of these are FINE. this isn't a war!

So many people seem to be completely unable to understand that I actually deeply prefer polyamory. I've always been like this; before I knew what polyamory was, I was in my first monog relationship, and when I caught my bf sexting with someone else, I... didn't care.

I "got mad" cause I thought I was supposed to be mad, but it really didn't bother me. It seemed obvious that my boyfriend loved me, and his sexting had nothing to do with how much he wanted me.
Once I heard what polyamory was, it was like... ohhh. *That's* what I am.

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@Aella_Girl

17 Dec

I grew up low class, and expected my life to be hard - only I didn’t process it as “hard”; it was just how life *was.* I was going to have to spend the rest of my life doing minimum-wage physically-hard labor, and then getting pregnant. That was the plan, but more importantly-

I didn’t register this plan as a bad one, a sad one. It made the “I need to set aside my feelings and use my willpower” part of my brain very active, a dominant way of being. The pain in my legs from being on my feet all day was just the *way life was*. And I was grateful! -

I’d grown up reading stories throughout history and was intimately familiar with how new and different my current lifestyle was. I was happy I wasn’t working in coal mines, or under threat of war, and that there was no famine. I viewed it as a normal feature of human existence-

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@Aella_Girl

12 Dec

One thing I like about porn is that it's ironically very honest in some ways. It's really hard to lie to yourself about what turns you on when you're alone and looking for porn, and porn culture is often extremely tolerant and accepting of whatever weird shit you're into. 1/

I've been to a few porn conventions and it's a really fascinating combination of showiness and also direct shamelessness. You can't deny what moves your genitals, and so to some degree wokeness and its shame penetrates less in those spheres. 2/

Are you into black teens? Here's a parade of black teens welcoming your jizz. Are you into girls with dicks who try to trick you into sleeping with them? There's a whole booth for that. Do you wanna degrade or be degraded in any way? Sure! It's all kinda gross but also I love it.

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@Aella_Girl

10 Dec

Often, beautiful people downplay their own beauty. If you complain about how you don't like x feature, your beautiful friend might be like "I totally get it, I hate a feature about me too."
This is kinda annoying, and also how I feel about productive people. 1/

I often have a deep distrust that people who go "Oh yeah, I suck at being productive too" actually understand what my productivity issues are like. I am suspicious their perception of my difficulties are blinded by them trying to relate through their own, more minor hardships.

Some part of me wants to go "no you DON'T get it. you're acting like you get it but you have obviously accomplished big projects and so I don't trust you or your advice for me" even though I know this response is a little silly.

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@Aella_Girl

22 Nov

Below is a general summary of what I think is probably going on with black people in the US. This is based off memory of studies/data I've seen, but I'm open to updates if any of my facts seem wrong:

Black people are subject to greater police activity than white people, this seems supported by data.
This seems to be roughly proportional to crime black people commit; as in, low-crime black communities see roughly proportional police activity to white communities.

Racism seem to exist, but "unjustified" racism (e.g., disproportionate to crime) is relatively low and seems heavily city dependent.
So why do black communities tend to have higher crime? It seems to be fatherlessness, not poverty; poor, father-intact families have low crime.

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@Aella_Girl

17 Nov

i entered a CH room titled "where the caucasian people @? ask a black person a question"
where ppl were getting mad at a white woman for being 'ignorant' and not 'reading the room' - then proceed to tell white people it's 'white fragility' to be afraid of entering black rooms.

tbf it was another white woman telling other white ppl it's their fault for experiencing fear around entering black-dominant rooms, but this was supported by other black voices.

i've never encountered so much overt and proud racism before since joining Clubhouse

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