Thread by @hamnazubair

The best advice I've given or received in 2020, thread:

1. Life rewards the decisive choice.
No great thing ever came to the ditherer, the equivocator, the fence-sitter. You can’t open doors to a better future unless you’ve firmly closed doors to the past. Choose, move along.

2. Normalise walking away from a less-than-ideal situation.

3. If you think you deserve better – prove it by not settling for less.

4. No one needs to be convinced of your worth except yourself.

5. Instead of wondering what will happen why don’t you do the thing and find out.

6. Good things don’t always have to be acquired through hardship. If you believe that, that's your scarcity mindset talking.

So don’t second guess what comes to you easy. And don’t fight to hold onto what really wants to go.

7. Your 20s are the time to say ‘Yes’ to almost everything. Your 30s are the time to be more selective and say ‘No.’

8. There will be years when you’ll be in a position to give and there will be years when you will need to receive.

Know how to do both.

Approach both years with the same energy: generosity, grace, humility and acceptance.

9. People will love you from the level of their emotional development.
Expecting deep love from an unhealed person is a losing proposition. If dealing with a friend or family member, lower your expectations. If dealing with a lover, save your attention for someone at your level.

10. Work doesn’t always have to be visible to be valid. It’s okay to be private about your effort and your goals. In fact, it’s often the better route.

11. Normalise saying ‘let’s just see where this goes’ about your kooky little passion projects.

12) It’s perfectly normal to feel sad after making the right decision. That doesn’t mean you should change your mind.

13) Strong boundaries and a soft heart.

14) No one cares, work harder.