Did you know?

91% of us will not meet our New Year resolutions

- But 9% of us will (according to studies) 💪🏻
- It takes 21 days for a new habit to form.
- 66 days for that behavior to become automatic

1) & one mental model to help you get through it 👇
2) 1st Stop: Discipline > Motivation

- Motivation: (n) The general desire to do.
- Discipline: (v) To train by instruction and exercise.

Motivation only exists as a noun. But discipline is a verb.

In other words, discipline is something you do, motivation comes and goes.
3) 2nd Stop: Valley of Pain

Pain is a good sign. A rite of passage on your way to the promise land.

😈 learn to recognize its demons:

- fear & resistance
- research & productivity tool masterbation
- excuses & illusion of time
- telling others about your goals
4) 3rd Stop: Discipline is not enough, it has to feel good.

Here’s my secret for sticking with anything -

It has to feel good

Discipline metabolizes motivation so that it can get you over the “Valley of Pain” and into the realm of “Feeling Good”

Dopamine leads to habits ✨
5) How’s it possible to like something you initially didn’t enjoy?

Mood follows action.

When we're feeling down, the best thing we can do to change our mental state is to change our physical state

Behavior 1st - thoughts, feelings & perceptions follow

bit.ly/2KL7toh
6) 4th Stop: Habit -> Identity

Disciplined actions -> habits w/ the the balm of dopamine. Their summation become our identity

@JamesClear: "Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become."

Self- actualization = motivation to start the process again
7) "When you fall in love with the process rather than the product, you don’t have to wait to give yourself permission to be happy.

You can be satisfied anytime your system is running."

Goodluck my friends 💪🏻

full post below 👇

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25 Dec 20
My favs from @lesswrong's 100 tips for a better life:

1) Success 💫

• The best advice is personal/comes from somebody who knows you well

• How you spend your days is how you spend your life

• Discipline > motivation. The former can be trained, the latter is fleeting
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• Steeping minutes: Green at 3, black at 4, herbal at 5.

• When googling a recipe, precede it with ‘best’. You’ll find better recipes.

• Food taste can be made much more exciting through simple seasoning.
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• You can automate mundane computer tasks with Autohotkey (or AppleScript).

• Reward yourself after completing challenges, even badly.

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Although I only recently joined the company as a PM, I've been a Calm meditator since 2016 🧘🏻‍♀️

These are the reasons I've chosen Calm over any other meditation/wellness app from the POV of a user 👇
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Calm was always referenced on customer calls as the gold standard implementation. Their exps were always featured in presos.

They've built a data/user-driven culture from day 1.
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However, many don't know his 1st major work actually was on ethics, charity, and being virtuous.

1/ In 1759, he wrote the Theory of Moral Sentiments 👇
2/ Within it, Smith argues a simple yet subtle tenant:

Being loved and being lovely are two completely separate concepts.
3/ Anyone can be loved. It is bestowed upon us by the identities, possessions, and deeds we take on in order to win the affection of others.

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1/ I took a week off to ponder my ever-evolving definition of success:

Could the success I thought I wanted.. actually prevent me from doing the thing I actually wanted to do?

a thread 🧵on the downsides of wealth and fame, and upsides of autonomy and creative expression 👇
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Napoleon once wrote: “Today, I’m sort of a mannequin figure that’s lost its liberty and happiness. Grandeur is all very well, but only in retrospect and in the imagination.”
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Before you grimace uncomfortably, hear me out.

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