"it is quite common for spiritual abuse victims to develop trauma triggers that are connected to Christian practices. In other words, their faith can become a trauma trigger."
Victims may experience years of spiritual depression and feeling like God is infinitely far away without realizing that it may be because the trauma they experienced made Bible reading and prayer a trigger. They feel helpless or angered suddenly when someone starts talking about
the gospel, even though in their hearts they know and love the Lord. They question their intentions and feelings, when all along, it may be trauma triggers that have been connected to practices of their faith.
I think this is exactly who Jesus has in mind when He told His
disciples, “If anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea” (Matthew 18:6). Jesus knew how twisted things could become when the gospel
is mishandled by spiritual abusers. The practices and habits that are meant to be means of grace become liturgies of dearth. That which should give life, hope, and peace become twisted to become associated with pain, fear, and hopelessness.
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Years ago, I talked to one of my former classmates and friends about the spiritual abuse my family received at the hands of a church leader. I still remember him telling me that I should consider all the "good things" that leader had done in planting churches and paving the way
for great things in the denomination. It was as though he was saying that the spiritual abuse my family (and countless other families before us) was worth it in his eyes for the sake of "ministry."
Our friendship ended from that point on. The cost of spiritual abuse
is not just the abuse itself but all of the friendships and support networks you lose through it all. It's the large amounts of people who say they believe you but will do nothing to help you when they have the power and influence to do so. It's the well-intentioned people
Can we talk about why Christian nonprofits as a whole pay their staff abysmal wages, provide low quality or even no benefits, yet seem to require 24/7 fealty to their employer?
Yet, the ceos and top executives make six figure salaries, can work from wherever they want, get countless perks for their job, and ultimately get the credit for all the work the lowest level employees actually do.
Shouldn't our employment practices, work culture, and holistic treatment of employees shine forth the kingdom of God? Shouldn't we be going well above and beyond the minimum legal obligations to show a better way?
Folks saying CRT is a bigger threat than racism are cut from the same cloth as those who say that radical feminism is a bigger threat than sexual abuse in the church.
When we bring up racism and Christian nationalism, they bring up CRT. When we bring up sexual abuse in the church, they warn of radical feminism. Same smokescreen tactics. Same excuses to avoid addressing the actual pressing issue at hand.
The gatekeepers continue to place extra hurdles and obstacle courses to be cleared before the actual issues can be addressed. Truth-tellers are placed in the position of either responding to the endless "what abouts" or being accused of being cowards for choosing to not engage
Back in 2017 after the White nationalist/supremacist event in Charlottesville, I wrote an article for @WhiteHorseInn explaining how the Bible speaks clearly against racism, ethnic superiority, and nationalism. The comments and articles written in response to it were appalling.
This wasn't the first time we had received comments like this, but the vitriol was palpable this time. Donors of the ministry were threatening to stop their support. I learned that Reformed pastors were spreading gossip that the ministry was becoming "liberal" and full of "social
justice warrior" content to convince those they have influence over to stop their support. A local pastor and seminary professor posted multiple articles as well as a live radio broadcast that was at least in part a response to my article and others by Christians of color.
Not just the Young, Restless, and Reformed, but also those of us who were a part of the Confessional, Curmudgeonly, and Reformed movement who were taught that good theology only came from 16th-17th century Europeans. Let me tell you about the "Confessionally Reformed hip-hop" ...
In the circles I was in, people made ministries off of dunking on the Young, Restless, and Reformed movement and went heresy hunting on anyone that didn't fit their view of "truly Reformed" theology.
It was basically the Make the 16th Century Great Again movement that tried to make the end-all be-all of theology the magisterial Reformation.