Around 2 decades ago I remember watching @Dmoceanu speak out at great personal cost. I remember the horrible things that were said, and sharply replying "I don't think we know the full story. I think she's telling the truth, the cost is way too high to lie."
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And thinking "no one puts themselves through this unless it's so much worse than they even say at first." And that cemented my resolve that she was my favorite gymnast.
Years later, I saw @dantzscher eviscerated for telling the truth about the Karolyi Ranch. . .
They said the same things about her that they'd said about Dominique. Because they both spoke up with so much courage, they were my favorite gymnasts from that moment on. I remember telling people "You're wrong. They aren't lying, the cost is way too high. Something is wrong."
What I didn't know then was that our paths would cross over a decade later.
Because Dominique spoke up at such a great cost, when Jamie realized what Larry was doing, she knew Dominique was the one person who might believer her.
Just a few weeks before I contacted the IndyStar, Jamie told Dominique who Larry really was. And she was believed, and encouraged to speak out and stop him.
Just a few days after I contacted the IndyStar to go on record, Jamie's attorney @johnmanly reached out to them too.
Because of Dominique and Jamie, my story wasn't alone when the newspaper ran, and I could tell Dt. Munford "I know there's at least one more", even though no one knew who yet.
2yrs later - 3 yrs ago today, on a bitter Michigan morning, walking to the Lansing courthouse, I heard someone calling my name from far away. Dominique and her husband Mike had traveled all the way from their home to be in court with us that day.
They came because they knew so personally the cost of speaking up. They took the time to stand with us, because no one had stood with Dominique.
Dominique's choice, decades before, to do what was right at great personal cost, is why Jaime had a safe place to tell.
And because Jaime had a safe place to tell, my story wasn't alone. And because we weren't alone, the truth came out, and hundreds spoke up.
It took more than two decades before the real fruit of Dominique's choice to speak the truth no matter what it cost, began to really be seen on a national level. But her choice set the stage to change the world.
So every year on this anniversary of the day I met my childhood hero (and very weirdly, she knew who I was😂) I remember to never, ever underestimate the impact of the choice to do what is right.
You may never know the changes your choice will set in motion, it may take decades to see, or you might never see it at all, but these are the decisions that set the trajectory of our lives and determine who we will become, and how safe we will be.
I'm so thankful Dominique stood up more than 20 years ago, because it set the stage for hundreds to stand up, decades later.
And you still owe her one *@&)*&@ of an apology @USAGym .
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The importance of leaders, and the tone they set and the policies they push for, can't be overstated.
But I also know this - culture is set first and foremost by the individual actions we take, *and what we excuse, minimize, or refuse to see.*
Thread. Trigger Warning for SA.
In the past few months, 3 professional comedians have added "Nassar" jokes into their comedy routines, including shows hosted on Netflix and broadcast on mainline TV. The jokes related mostly to how good it must have felt to have that "special treatment". The audience laughed.
I did a quick Google image search of my name to try to locate a photo for a journalist, and inadvertently discovered that the search term most often coupled with my name is "body".
And I also know that sending letters asking for investigations accomplishes nothing, and does nothing for any of the victims of the 70 MILLION images the federal government ALREADY possesses just from LAST YEAR.
We need Senators using their platforms and power to tell the truth about what's really going on in our justice system,and equipping that system with training, funding and accountability so it can actually work.
Don't write a letter asking a broken system for an investigation.
We need Senators who are looking at reform to give victims access to our civil and criminal justice systems.
Let's talk about Title IX, which applies to minor kids in government schools, and the absolute dearth of protection when they are abused on government property or by government employed teachers.
Let's talk about legislation to ensure that hosting websites, like Pornhub and social media platforms have liability for the videos of violent rape and child sexual abuse that they facilitate and even monetize.
I haven't spoken much about this because this has affected me in ways I can't express.
I wait for these calls. Every single day, I am waiting. I pray through the night that I won't get them. Some nights, I'm not sure what I'll wake up to.
The world, at Larry's sentencing, saw women reclaim their voice. They saw a moment of triumph, and when the world left the scene of our courtroom, by and large, they felt "good". Yes, there had been a tragedy but we - viewers felt - now had justice and victory. Wasn't it over?
I saw something very different. I looked at this precious group of sisters I never thought I'd meet, and wondered if we'd find ourselves missing some of us, a few years later. And we almost have - many times - lost one of us. I saw what was coming when the moment of triumph left.
I constantly hear injustice, racism, abuse and misogyny excused with variations of "that was the culture... No one knew better."
That's nonsense.
With abuse, the "turning point" most people point to is the Penn State scandal. "But XYZ coverup/mishandling was before Penn State, so no one really knew what to do at that point."
Wrote a victim impact statement again. My fourth in less than three years.
Kathy Klages is being sentenced tomorrow for lying to investigators when I filed my police report.
If she had done the right thing in 1997, almost none of us would have even met Larry.
If she had done the right thing in 1997, the two survivors who spoke up would have been saved from further abuse, protected, validated, and could have moved forward with healing decades earlier.
Instead, they were gaslit, mocked, and turned over for more abuse.
If Kathy had done the right thing in 2016 when I filed my report, I wouldn't have been the only one. The chain of evidence to so many of the survivors (MSU gymnasts) wouldn't have been closed.
I wouldn't have been left alone, mocked as an international headline for making it up.