Thread by @sheikhimaan

Wanted to come in here and dissect a trope in our homes — the "safai-pasand mard" (man who likes everything neat and clean).

Thread:

How many times have you heard a woman say (or said yourself) that their husband, father/FIL, or son is very "safai-pasand"?

"In se toh zara bhi gandagi bardasht nahi hoti. Bohat safai-pasand hain. Ganda glass, maile kapre, phaila kamra dekh ke ghussa hojate hain."

Sometimes, you'll even hear women say this about the men in the household as if it's something to be proud of. But nearly always, being a safai-pasand mard comes from feeling entitled to the labor of women in the home who must clean, dust, wash, and sweep.

It's common to have a husband or father who does things like walk into the living room, graze a finger across a table and ask "dusting nahi hui aaj??" in disgust.

And a woman in the home to say, "Tumhe pata hai na, inko dhool matti kitni chirrdh hai."

It's simply ✨understood✨

The deal is that Brown men have the privilege to be safai-pasand. They are handed the luxury to demand free housekeeping from the women at home. Moms must keep track of their laundry. Wives must spend 6 hours in the kitchen, but also smell like flowers and never like sweat.

How often have u heard Brown women being described as safai-pasand *this* way? W/o the onus of having to do the cleaning themselves? Y'kno, just expecting stuff to be clean?
Men can be called safai-pasand w/o doing the safai. Women MUST clean to earn the descriptor (if lucky lol)

And that's just another extension of everyday male privilege at home.

"Hamari begum bohat safai-pasand hain, ghar ko bilkul saaf-suthra, tip-top rakhti hain."

"Mere miyan bohat safai-pasand hain. Ghar zara bhi ganda ho toh daant dete hain haha."